Should I Unfollow, Unfriend, Uneverything My Ex?

Even though I’m going on all of the dates lately, I still catch myself thinking about the last guy I kind of dated. We weren’t officially in a relationship, but it certainly felt like one. Feel free to read all about that disaster.

The thing is, now when I break up with someone, it’s done. I’m someone who needs to cut off contact or else I end up diving into this on-and-off cycle. After having two very long on-and-off relationships, I just can’t do it again. It’s too difficult.

But this guy wanted to be friends and still act buddy-buddy. Which was fine until I realized that I just can’t do that. Why, you ask? Maybe because I’m surrounded by social media and am getting bombarded by him ALL THE TIME.

I love social media, I really do. I just don’t want to see the guy that I want to be with all up on my Instagram and Twitter feeds when I’m trying to get over him. I was doing okay for a while because we weren’t talking that much anymore. But little by little, we’re communicating more. Or rather, he’s “communicating” with me.

He sends me Snapchats of things he’s doing and tweets at me, but then doesn’t want to have an actual conversation. And I’m here like “Helloooo why are you doing this to me?!” It’s like he knows when I’m about to get over him and then he’s all NO JK COME BACK. It’s really frustrating.

Back in the day when all of this social media didn’t exist, I found it much easier to avoid contact with people. I know I could easily unfollow him or unfriend him or whatever, but it seems really harsh to do that. He didn’t particularly do anything like one of my exes that I had to block from Facebook. The timing just wasn’t right. We don’t have ill feelings toward each other.

I just miss his face. And it’s really hard to move on and want to give other guys a chance when I’m seeing his face pop up on my phone because he won’t let me go. I really don’t know what to do.

Should I just remove him from all social media accounts? Should I talk to him about it? If I talk to him, how do I even bring it up? I feel so confused in my brain, heart and feels. HELP ME! Tell me what you think I should do in the comments!
 

At least I don’t regret hooking up with him

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3 Comments

  1. avatarSuperbandgeek says:

    I have almost uneverythinged my ex. I can’t figure out how to de-friend him on snapchat… I told him that I’m not wanting to be friends at the moment and told him not to contact me. I told him I will contact him when I’M ready.

  2. avatarKristina says:

    Ugh I’m stuck in the exact same situation. :/ It’s so frustrating! Any advice?

  3. avatarkelly says:

    Im going through the same thing right now but i think the best thing to do would be to just delete him. it may sound harsh but it’ll be easier to get over him, by not seeing his face all day or being bombarded by all his crap. delete him and just keep it moving. If he really wants to talk then he’ll text you and have an ACTUAL conversation with you

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