Sex ed is very important, y’all. A lot of schools are stupidly still teaching abstinence-only sex ed classes, which is proven to be super ineffective. At my school, they separated boys and girls and took us on this weird sex ed field trip to a museum. We then watched an old black and white film about periods and sex.
To say it was bizarre would be an understatement. And we really didn’t learn anything. After that, we didn’t have sex ed again. It was like one day. We learned some things in biology, but other than that, we were kind of on our own.
Fortunately, my best friend’s sister was way older than us so she was always there to tell us about sex growing up. And my mom is like the COOLEST so I was totally comfortable going to her if I had questions.
But I know not everyone is that lucky. I don’t know one person that had a useful sex ed class. Here are some things we wish we learned in sex ed!
Sex Can Change Things
Whether you want to believe it or not, sex does change relationships. It doesn't necessarily have to be a bad change, though. Sometimes sex brings couples closer and other times it pulls them apart.
Orgasms Don't Happen Every Time
Consider yourself lucky if you have an orgasm every time you have sex! Unlike guys, the female body is a lot more complicated. You might not have an orgasm at all during sex. And it might not always feel good. Sometimes it doesn't feel that great, which is sad but true.
Latex Allergies Are Real
You can be allergic to latex condoms! But that doesn't give you a free pass not to use them. There are alternatives to latex condoms like polyurethane.
Penises Are Weirder Than You Think
Yup, they totally are. I don't know how guys walk around with those all day. And they're all different. They come in all shapes, sizes and colors. Seriously.
Sex Doesn't Always Last That Long
Sex doesn't always last for like hours on end. If it did, you'd probably pass out. Sometimes sex can be really, really quick (like 2 minutes) and sometimes it can last a good while. It really depends.
You Don't Have To Have Sex To Go On The Pill
Yes, the pill prevents you from getting pregnant. But there are many reasons to get birth control like regulating your period, helping bad cramps or reducing PMS symptoms. I was on birth control for almost 3 years before I had sex.
UTIs And Yeast Infections Can Happen
Sex can cause more than STDs. Urinary tract infections and yeast infections both can be caused from having sex. UTIs can be very common when you're sexually active so the best way to avoid them is to pee before AND after having sex. While yeast infections aren't directly caused by sex, you can get them from having a lot of sex especially if your immune system is weak.
You're A Self-Lubricating Machine
You're not leaking or peeing your pants. That discharge you see every now and then is normal. Your vagina makes its own lube!
Sex Can Cause Swelling And Pain
If you have a lot of sex or really rough sex or if he's too big, you can get swollen down there. And it is not pleasant. You also might be sore for a bit after having sex. If it's really bad, sit on an ice pack. Trust me.
Are there any things you wish you learned in your sex ed class? Did you have sex ed? Tell us in the comments!