From The Message Boards: Am I Going To End Up Alone Forever?

Everyone goes through periods in their life when they feel lonely. It’s completely normal to have that feeling every once in a while, but it goes away!

This week on the message boards, you girls are talking about if you’ll be alone forever if you’ve never had a boyfriend or never been kissed.

Let’s see what y’all had to say:

flamingoccm said:

Plenty of girls don’t date in high school. You can’t “get” a guy to like you. It’s not something you force. You need to be yourself and maybe even put yourself out there. If you’re interested in a guy, try to actually let him know. You’re also not going to date every guy you talk to. It’s possible those two guys just saw you as a friend and nothing more. Maybe it’s them, and they just weren’t interested. Or, maybe you’re just not conveying that you would give them a chance.

Wolf-Fire said:
Plenty of people don’t do any of that stuff until later in life. Don’t use any of that as a barometer on whether or not you will be alone forever. You have a lot of life left to live, you know.

Nevalyn said:
Your life does not end when you graduate high school.

And you are probably right, you’re probably not their type. But that’s really nothing to be bothered by. You’re not the only diamond left in the world that everyone has to love and admire. There are billions of people in the world, your town… is not the universe. In order to find the right guy, you have to meet a crap ton of men. The more you meet, the greater your options. You need to go out there and make yourself available and look for those that find you to be their type.

Don’t stress it. If you keep complaining, people will notice. And no one likes someone who doesn’t like themselves.

I totally remember having the “I’m going to be alone forever” feeling. It’s awful, and you can end up feeling completely worthless. But I promise, you are not alone in feeling this way!

Seriously, everyone has this moment in life, maybe even more than once. You are not going to end up alone forever. When I was in middle school, I was convinced that I was going to be alone for the rest of my life with like a million cats. But I’ve gone on to have three serious relationships and casually dated lots of other people since then.

It’s easy to get wrapped up in the alone feeling when you’re stuck in it, but the important thing to remember is to always be yourself. You can’t let someone else in until you’re comfortable with who you are first. I would take this moment of loneliness to really figure out you and figure out what makes you happy.

And don’t be afraid to put yourself out there! Just because guys aren’t asking you out left and right doesn’t mean they don’t like you. Maybe a guy is too shy to talk to you! If you don’t take a chance to get to know people, they’re not going to know how amazing you are.
 
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19 Comments

  1. avatarJen says:

    I’m in college, and this is something I worry about sometimes. Granted, the fact I was bullied before high school might have something to do with it, since I never really had a close group of friends. I feel lost often and I get the feeling I really will end up by myself forever, especially lately.

  2. avatarTania says:

    I don’t even know how I got here. I am almost 29, and if I was talking to my teenage self, my teenage self would be thinking “yeah, ok old lady, just say what everyone else is saying”. Here is the truth. I never had a boyfriend in high school. I dated a couple of guys I didn’t really like when I was about 14 or 15, but that was just because I cared more about having a boyfriend than having standards.. I suffered with a severe mental illness and I couldn’t see past the end of my nose. There were boys who liked me, one in particular was obsessed with me, but I was so obsessed with being miserable I couldn’t see it. I grew up, I dated some losers and made some big mistakes, and I learnt from them. It is part of what will make you someone’s AMAZING wife one day. I am getting married to a very handsome, funny, caring, tolerant, generous supportive man in just 6 weeks. Hang in there little ones, your time will come!!!

    xxxxx

  3. avatarUname says:

    I will NEVER LET PEOPLE IN TO MY LIFE I WILL NEVER TALK TO ANYBODY

  4. avatarlancaster says:

    Sixteen years old over here, and the only love interests I’ve ever got are the ones from roleplays and such. Okay I suck bye

  5. avatarzooeylou* says:

    Hello there im feeling very alone and ugly because all of my friends already have boyfriends,and im shamed whenever they talked about them.some of them are teasing me ‘you wont ever have a boyfriend’ i tried to tell some of my crush i like them but im dumped.i used to be angry to all guys but i cant.i want someone to be there for me.im afraid that i will be forever alone.by the way,im 13 yrs. Old.

  6. avatar@zooeylou says:

    Hello there im feeling very alone and ugly because all of my friends already have boyfriends,and im shamed whenever they talked about them.some of them are teasing me ‘you wont ever have a boyfriend’ i tried to tell some of my crush i like them but im dumped.i used to be angry to all guys but i cant.i want someone to be there for me.im afraid that i will be forever alone.by the way,im 13 yrs. Old.

  7. avatarWeirdGirl says:

    I’m 16 and never had a boyfriend.

    • avatarAlexus Michelle says:

      Don’t wrry, I’m 14 and I have barely even hug guys…let alone kiss or date..so ur DEFINETLY NOT alone, okay?

  8. avatar(would rather not say) says:

    I’m 13 right now, and I have a bunch of friends that are already dating! I’m basically the odd one out that has no boyfriend, and i’m starting to feel really lonely and ugly. I mean, if i’m not getting a boyfriend, that means i’m not attractive, right? Ugh. I don’t know what to do to get a boy or make myself more attractive. Help?

    • avatarBlehhmersflow says:

      You should definitely check out @lizziesanswers on youtube. She has a video on that and lots more advices on relationships sooo I hope you do check them out. Hope this helps .

    • avatarprincesskaylz says:

      You are not ugly, just because you’re not dating anyone doesn’t mean theres nothing wrong with you. Im 16, and I’ve never had a serious relationship, and I’m a junior. trust me, guys come up to me ALL the time saying how pretty I am, but I’m single. Just have fun, and let the guys come to you. and your in what, middle school? chill. guys are SOOOOOOO immature at this age their not even worth it. theres much more to life than boys. :)

    • avatarGizardlover says:

      Honey, don`t beat yourself up. Guys are jerks. Most are not worth your time. If they can`t like you for your true beautiful self then that is their fault! One day you will come across a guy who will love you for you. Even if he sees you at the worst of times.

  9. avatarconfusedgurl99 says:

    i feel lonely a lot :/ especially wen i see couples together it jst makes me feel lonely :S but the best way to get rid of tht is to tlk to your girl friends about it cuz guys go round and round but ur gurls r always there for ya:)

  10. avatarCuteness289 says:

    What if your 19, and a freshman in college who has never been kissed and has never had a real boyfriend?

    • avatarSassyCas says:

      Then you are not alone. I am a 21 year old college senior who is in the same boat as you are.

    • avatarJames says:

      Im an almost 18 year old guy, virgin, never even kissed a girl or even held hands with one, and…dont worry, there are plenty of guys in the same boat, and tbh, we kinda worry about the same crap as you do..i always thought that it was just guys who worried about this crap honestly…

    • avatarDiana says:

      Story of my life… But I keep myself occupied with my friends, new activities (like kickboxing), and volunteering so I don’t think about that stuff. Oh and I’m going to study abroad, maybe what I need is a new location. You never know you might just meet a guy in a new place. Goodluck :)

  11. avatarLotti says:

    I get that feeling a lot !! I feel so lost and lonely and I just want someone to love and care for me during these periods of my life. I thought I was strange and weird for thinking this when I’m only 14 but these comments made me feel better and when I feel like that again I will remember these comments to cheer me up :) Thank You :D

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