Your Complete Guide To Oral Sex

Oral sex might not seem like as big of a deal as sex sex, but it’s actually a super intimate act. Some even would argue that it’s more intimate.

Oral sex is great and can be a lot of fun, but there are a lot of things to keep in mind. I feel like no one really talks about oral that openly, but we should! There’s nothing to be ashamed of or embarrassed about.

We’re answering all your questions about oral sex right here. Click through for your complete guide to everything oral!

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  • Meghan

    Ok so my boyfriend won’t/doesnt want to kiss me after I give him oral, but I’ll still kiss him after he goes down on me, idk what to do.I love him so much and enjoy making him feel good, but I still wanna be able to kiss him.

  • Lizzy1265

    Do you spit or swallow when giving a bj? I want to give my boyfriend one and he has asked for it a few times but I’m scared about the whole spitting and swallowing …where do I spit if spitting is the answer? And will my boyfriend judge me on my first time giving him head?

    • Swallow. Always swallow. You’ll win his hear forever!

  • melody

    how to deep throat?

  • Sammy

    Tip of advice, girls with braces, (yes I’m 19 and have braces) it won’t hurt him at all. The first time I went down on a guy I was nervous that they may hurt him. It actually didn’t, after we stopped he felt really good afterwards.
    PS don’t be nervous if it’s you’re first time, you may have talent. After my first time he didn’t believe that I have never done oral before. He said and I quote “for someone who’s never had experience, You sure know what you’re doing.

  • Conflicted.Confused.Crazy

    Hey 🙂 I have been with someone for a few months, and I have never had a real boyfriend before, so I am completely new to all things sexual with a partner. Because of my guys last girlfriend who cheated on him, we decided to take all sexual stuff slow. Neither of us has had sex, but he has gotten oral before from his last girlfriend, who he was with for almost a year. I just want to know if I am crazy to find that hard to deal with. Writing about this now it seems like I am, but if oral can be considered even more intimate than sex itself, and if some people view it as actually losing your virginity (I’m fifty fifty on it, which is why I am so conflicted about this whole deal), am I really crazy to feel so confused over it? It really sucks that I’m not going to be his first everything, when he is my first everything, and I’m just so… well, confused. Can anyone help me? – C.C.C

    • Tristen

      If you always strive to be someone’s “first” you’ll never find the right guy. Unless you’re untouched completely don’t expect a guy to me. They might be his past but you’re his present and future!

    • Fatima

      Been there before- don’t over think it. He may not share that first with you, but that doesn’t mean he can’t share other firsts with you!

  • Caitlyn

    Hi so im 16 and recently ive been talking with this guy who is also 16. We’ve been talking about having sex with eachother for about two days now. He keeps asking me what i would like and tells me he’ll do it. I told him no anal and im glad that he doesnt like anal because i find it gross ( no offense to anyone). When he first asked me if there was a certain way i liked it i told him i didnt know because im a virgin and he said “same but how would you want me to f*ck you” and i then realized that i never asked if he was a virgin. Since then he’s described to me in full detail what he would do to me and I couldnt believe how perfect it sounded. It sounded just like how i imagine having sex for the first time in my head when i get horny. But because of how perfect it sounds and how many girls he has on his snapchat (that im pretty sure he dirty chats because thats what he wanted to do with me until i said no, i mean why do u wanna see me in a pic if we’re gonna have sex anyways? ) it makes me feel like he’s now lying to me about being a virgin too. And we talked about me giving him oral sex which im fine with (i actually cant wait, i dont want it in return) and since we didnt plan on using condoms for that part of the hookup im wondering if i should ask him if he’s a virgin again? I dont think he would lie but you never know. And there’s no way that i could make sure that he got tested in the area i live in without people finding out also I’m pretty sure that we would need parent signatures or supervision or something and thats totally out of the question. Any advice and please dont be rude.

    • Fatima

      Sticky situation. If you’re not comfortable, sure or even ready to give this guy your virginity- you don’t have to. Believe me, if you wait, it’s worth it. You’re only 16 and you have plenty of time to get it on. I hope all goes well! 🙂

    • Mohammed

      Hello Caitlyn think u should be very careful and ask him that glad we can know each other more better promise u would like me and give u all u want

  • jenjenz95

    i really want to give my bf a blow job when the time comes for us to be sexually active. never did it before and he never got it before

  • Alexis

    Oral sex is great if it’s good. It can be uncomfortable if he doesn’t know what he’s doing. The whole point is that you’re doing it to make one another feel good, to enjoy the experience.

    I love it with my current bf though, and I love to go down on him. We aren’t otherwise sexually active, and oral makes it easier for us to abstain. We aren’t frustrated if we get a little carried away. We can still orgasm and feel satisfied.

  • Heather

    I want to have oral sex but I don’t know how and what to do and I don’t know if I should do it with my BF or someone I don’t know that well

    • Faith

      if you’r not ready to do it the then dont but WHY would you do it wih a randome person?

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  • rock

    i like oral sex

  • Faithgirl

    Oral sex doesn’t sound very fun or good to me. I do NOT plan on having oral sex at all. Just not my idea of a cup of tea. Most of you girls love it, supprisingly. I can’t imagine myself sicking a guy’s… thing.

  • lilly

    i love oral sex love it love it love it i feel so alive while doing like 6 guys one time its just like licking a lollipop i want them to fluck me hard in return yes im a slut and u know what i love being one because imma live life to the fullest and i just got tested on friday i dont have any diseases and im 22

    • khan

      ewww your piratically advertising yourself do you not have any respect, seriously no guys find sluts attractive :/

      • Kim

        It’s 2014. Can we remove the word “slut” from the day to day vernacular please?

  • Nicole

    my first was last month with a guy ive been dating for years dont be embarassed he dosent care all he knows is hes in a room with a naked girl i mean think like a guy would your in a room with your gf and shes naked are you gonna juge her body or dig in?

  • Serena

    Oral sex is the best because when he goes down and the orgasms are mind blowing there is no way in hell he is ever coming back up. <3

    • mac

      love give and received and share the cum with each other.

  • belinta

    it was so embarassing when he went down .

  • Tori

    69 is the best way to do it. That way the both of you enjoy the sensations. I believe that oral sex is such an intimate interaction and really brings a couple close because it takes a lot from both to actually get into it and enjoy it and make sure that your partner is sexually satisfied.

  • Briana

    If you go down on a guy but they don’t go down on you but you want them to should you just ask?

    • Izzy

      Yes, absolutely!

    • Jade

      I think you should I dont think theres anything wrong with it just try to say it in,a sexy way like in a dirty talking way and soon enough he will 🙂

    • melissa

      Hell yea

  • marissa

    isnt this supposed to be a discussion about oral sex? Turns out that this has become a feast for those bitchy, frustrated, judgemental girls who are unleashing their bitchiness and judgements on that poor 12 yr old girl who genuinely made a post about her “first time” experience with an older guy. Surely we are bigger and more openminded to resist judging or condemning her. Aren’t we?? Why is it that girls believe it is their responsibility to chastize other girls and pretend they themselves are immune to any such activity? Most likely it is because they haven’t had any such opportunity and are themselves unattractive to the opposite sex to be able to have such an experience. She is probably stunned by the negative remarks some of us have unleashed on her. How sad!! I hope she proves all of you wrong. If she doesnt then so be it. It would have been an experience for her. At least she would have experienced the love and closeness that she desires and is deprived of because of her parents.

  • newtosex

    Oral sex is the best. I had my first time this weekend. The guy went down on me several times and the orgasms were mind blowing!

  • Paris

    My mom’s friend is recovering from throat cancer because of oral sex. Protect yourself. It can only help.

    • Rachel

      Yes but thats due to HPV virus. Just ike that actor Michael Douglas who recently made his announcement. Like any other form of sexual activity this is a STD that can be transmitted. So you got to be sure about your partner. That will be one good reason to delay any sexual activity with a new partner especially if it is known that he/she has had many partners before.
      Saying that oral sex is great for both partners. I make my guy go down on me a lot. It is an awesome feeling and I cum almost instantly. He enjoys doing it to me because he enjoys seeing my responses. I do a lot of oral on him too. I have known his previous girlfriends. We have gone to school together. I definitely know they were all virgins at the time he dated them. He is a few years older but I know him very well and I know about his sexual past. I am sure he doesnt have any STDs and I know all the girls he has been with are fine too. You know how girls talk. We find things out very quickly. 😛