Straight Talk With Shallon: Do Guys Like Giving Oral Sex?

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You’re the only one who feels this way about your vajay!
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Hi Shallon,

My boyfriend says he loves to go down on me but… I just don’t believe him. It feels amazing but I spend the whole time worried that I smell gross, look gross, taste gross–AM gross in general. He keeps reassuring me but I just can’t imagine that it’s not kind of icky. I know you’ll tell me the truth: is it super nasty for guys to give us oral?

–Sarah

 

Dear Scent-sational Sarah,

In a word: NO. It’s not gross. Not at all. Think about it: if going down on a girl was SO INCREDIBLY AWFUL, it wouldn’t have stayed around for hundreds of years. Dudes would have just plain stopped doing it. I polled nearly every one of my guy friends to get their honest, no holds barred opinions, here’s what they said:

“Smells? Nah, no not at all. I mean once, in college when my girlfriend had just gotten back from volleyball practice, yeah, that wasn’t the best, but every other time I’ve gone down on a girl, it wasn’t anything less than awesome.” – Jackson

“It tastes, like, warm and tangy if that makes sense. I dunno how to describe it but it’s definitely good! If a guy doesn’t like doing it, we all secretly thing he’s really weird, because it’s awesome.” – Reid

“Girls may think they smell weird but to guys, it’s like this aphrodisiac that only we can smell. You know how there are ringtones that adults can’t hear? It’s like that I guess but for guys. And vaginas.” – Kyle

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Awesomeness ahead!Source: Shutterstock

“I love it because I’m giving her SO much pleasure. As a dude, sometimes you can feel like you’re the only one getting off so it’s great to just sit back and be in the driver’s seat of making HER happy. I guess it’s almost like a power thing, like this big achievement. I’m into that.” – Jason

I also talked to my bisexual friend, a girl, who’s gone down on both guys and girls and she had a very interesting perspective.

“I always thought it was SUPER gross to go down on a girl and I’d always feel guilty when anyone did it to me… until I did it to someone else. Ummm it’s SO much easier and nicer than giving a blow job!” she gushed.

“Even physically, the way your head is angled and your body positioned is way more comfortable than giving a BJ. I could go down on a girl for hours, it’s great. Now, having done it, I really see why guys love it. To know you’re giving someone pleasure is even better than getting it yourself!”

So ladies, this is the overall message: it’s not gross. It’s not stinky, it’s not some vile sewer-like area that boys are forever traumatized after visiting. It’s great! And very much not something we should feel guilty about. And if you have a guy who makes you feel that way, the problem is HIM, not your lady bits!

XOXO,

Shallon

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  • Robe Spier

    im etero and i find extremly gross going down, i mean like eating a shit from the floor

  • Joseph Carlini

    SOME OF THESE GUYS ARE FULL OF SHIT..LOL. TBH IF A WOMAN IS NOT USING A DOUCHE, THE NATURAL SMELL OF FISH GUTS IS ENOUGH TO MAKE ANY MAN VOMIT. I FIND IT OFFENSIVE IF A WOMAN EXPECTS ME TO GO DOWN ON HER IF HER VAGINA SMELLS SO BAD. I DO LOVE GIVING A WOMAN AN ORGASM ORALLY AND THE TASTE DOESNT BOTHER ME (IF SHE DOESNT HAVE A DISGUSTING B.O SCENT, WHO CARES IF ITS NATURAL? DO YOU WANT MY STINKY NATURAL ARMPITS IN YOUR FACE WITHOUT DEODARANT??? HMMM ..BUT STILL DONT EXPECT A MAN TO GIVE ORAL FOR MORE THAN 20 MINUTES IF YOU CANT ORGASM. IF ALL WOMEN REFUSED GIVING BJ’S IF WE REFUSED GIVING ORAL SEX, I’D BE SO FOR IT…. PENETRATION IS THE ONLY WAY TO REALLY GET ME OFF ANYWAY.

  • The Founder

    It usually smells like sweat and piss. Ded srs! It only smells good down there if a girl has perfumed herself beforehand, but you can still smell the body odor through that. The only reason men like giving oral to women is due to their own chemical reaction in their brain overriding all logic. Shoving your tongue inside a woman, and feeling her body writhe in pleasure when you lick and suck on her clit makes a guy’s boner really hard.

  • Shybutfiesty

    I am a bit in the middle, I like when my boyfriend gives me head but sometimes I turn him down because I am too self concious, like he has never complained and I am VERY CLEAN but there is still doubt in my mind that he genuinely wants to. He says he does and from our long relationship I know that he loves giving pleasure to someone he loves. But yet I still feel embarrassed asking him for head ofr him giving it, but sometimes I get lost in the moment.

  • D

    My boyfriend actually salivates when he thinks about eating me out.
    And there is no orgasm like it. Not masturbating or during intercourse.
    Have him stimulate your g-spot while he’s eating you out. The combination of the 2 is amazing and the first time that happened was the first time I actually was afraid people could hear me outside of my house. Intense.

    Ladies who won’t go there, you are totally missing out. Btw, I’m 37 and I have 3 kids. This is not just for the young and crazy. 😉

  • Anonymous

    Im 20 nd had sex once and definately didn’t let him go down there, i thought it was realy gross and inapropriate. I just could not imagine it at all. Ummm after all i find sex gross

    • World Eater

      mmmmkay

  • Adivasi

    I am a madly addicted to eating pussy and ass of girls/women. I go mad at the taste, natural smell and aroma of pussy so much. I just don’t get enough by going down on a woman. The smell and taste down there make me crazy and make me wanting for more and more. The salty juice and piss aroma give me a heady feeling like marijuana! Wow it’s the nectar from heaven down there! I consider pussy sucking as a spiritual act and devote myself to it completely as I get complete erection while I go down on a female. Smell and taste of pussy and ass drives me mad after a day’s workout and still sweating!!! No soap wash please…I prefer raw. I get incredible kick from the heavenly smell and taste of an a clean shaven pussy!! i go to heaven by drinking the pussy juice and lapping up the pussy and ass without any creepy inhibitions. I devote so much to eating pussy and I used to make my partner reach orgasm through the oral sex act many times. I believe in the adage of attaining pleasure by giving pleasure. Trust me on this.

  • Ashley J

    I remember when my boyfriend first went down on me. I was so scared that it was going to be smelly or something even though I’m very clean and have great hygiene. It felt great but I could have enjoyed it way more if I wasn’t so worried! Now I’m over that because my thinking is, if he keeps coming back for more than it must not be bad! Plus he said he loves doing it for me and that I was nervous over nothing! 🙂

  • John

    I feel more loving and less selfish when I can orally pleasure my wife, however she has a block against it because she was programmed that only something girls do to each other.

  • Val

    As a guy, I can only tell you that I truly, sincerely LOVE LOVE LOVE giving my wife oral…but sometimes she doesn’t want me to! She feels “unlcean” down there (even though she has excellent personal hygiene). But when I do it for her, she practically goes through the roof and she has much more intense orgasms than from straight intercourse, masturbation, or both combined. This is what I love the most about it; I know it makes her feel better than anything else and all I want is to make her happy and give her the best O I can!

  • Suresh

    i feel bad for u gurl. but it reminds me of the time me and my bff were winaklg in the hall at and heard some maoning so we looked inside and saw one o my friends in the middle of EVERYthing and she was so embaressed it took weeks for her to even look me directly in the eye.

  • Darice

    I have actually had a guy tell me that he hates giving girls oral.

  • pinkheart

    I love having oral performed on me, we all have to get over being self conscious at first but once we realize most guys just want to please us those thoughts go away.

    I know guys like when we shave, they dont like stuble and most of them enjoy making us orgasm from giving us oral. I spread wide and wrap around him, maybe I move to much when they do it but feels so good.