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Sure, there are times when I’d rather lay on the couch all day and binge-watch episodes of Scandal while eating a whole bag of Cheetos (I’ve totally never done this ever). But when I tell a friend I’ll hang out with them, I always follow through. Because friendship! There’s really nothing that gets under my skin more than a friend who blows you off.
And yet I still have those friends. I have this one friend who I love to death, but recently she’s become the biggest flake ever. It’s really, really getting on my nerves. We’re really close, but lately every time we make plans to hang out, she comes up with a last minute excuse to back out. And usually I’ll see on Instagram or Twitter that she’s out with another friend!
If you don’t want to hang out, then don’t make plans! It’s that easy. I’d much rather know beforehand so I can plan to do something with someone else. It’s so annoying! And if you’re going to flake on a friend, don’t put it on social media where they can see it.
I think it’s really tough on me because I often go out of my way to do things for this friend, but she can’t even bother to have lunch with me or text me back.
This is basically how I feel. Source: helloosunshine
And she doesn’t just break lunch and dinner dates. She avoids texts and phone calls even when I have something really important to talk about. I think I’ve been trying to keep the friendship in tact because I don’t want to go through another friend breakup, but it might be time to let it go.
The hardest part about dealing with a flaky friend is that it’s so difficult to talk to them about it. How can you talk to someone who’s become a total pro at avoiding you? It’s virtually impossible! I’ve called and texted. I’ve even Facebook messaged her! All with no luck. I don’t know what there is to do except talk to my friend and let her know how hurtful her actions have been.
I want to know what y’all think. How do you deal with a flaky friend? Have you ever brought it up before? Did she know she was being flaky? Tell me in the comments!
At least this friend isn’t a frenemy, right?
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I know exactly how you feel! I have a friend who blows me off ALL the time but it’s not even last minute. It’s like I am at the place waiting and she texts me saying she cant make it type of last minute. She once caused me to miss 3 different movie times in a row! We had to catch the 11 movie because we missed the 8, 9 and 10 and I was there on time at 8 alone waiting. We still talk but I don’t make plans with her unless I talk to her parents first -__- we are both fifteen!
My boyfriend is a flake…
My ex-best friend got pretty flaky in the last year of our friendship (she was getting back together with her ex, so her life was revolving around him). It was SO hard to even make plans with her. We had to plan at least a week in advance for just a hangout day, and even then when we did hang, she’d be all “Well, *he* is gonna be home at 5, so I can only hang till then” and it was all, “Wait, what? This is supposed to be OUR day! I never see you, you’re always with him, but you’re gonna put a time limit on our time together just because he’s gonna be home later?” Ugh, it was SO frustrating, and even more so because she didn’t understand why it bothered me so much. I eventually just stopped trying, because I felt that I shouldn’t be the only one making an effort.
Recently I did have a friend cancel on me last minute, but it was a legit family concern that had come up. I think it’s important to remember that every once in a while things come up that you couldn’t have predicted and have no control over, and you shouldn’t get upset with friends if they have to cancel because of stuff like that. However, it sounds like this friend of yours just doesn’t care anymore, which really sucks. If you’re able to confront her, tell her how you feel. However, don’t message her again at all until/unless she replies to one of the messages you’ve already sent. Put the ball in her court. Show her you aren’t going to keep trying and going back to her unless you see she actually wants to keep the friendship going. If she never replies, then that tells you she doesn’t care. It sucks, I know, but sometimes it’s for the best.