Slut-Shaming Is Okay If She’s Actually A Slut, Right?

A big fight broke out on the Twittersphere last night between Chrissy Teigen and her followers. Basically, Chrissy sounded off on Teen Mom Farrah Abraham for maybe being pregnant after her sex tape (read: porn) came out and called her a whore and a slut. A bunch of Chrissy’s followers went bananas and told her to stop slut-shaming and that she was horrible.

Which brings me to: slut-shaming is okay if she’s actually a slut, right?

WRONG.

When it comes to Farrah Abraham, I think Chrissy was trying to say that Farrah shouldn’t be surprised if she were pregnant given that she put out a sex tape and had unprotected sex. However, it was totally unnecessary that she called Farrah a whore and a slut.

Like I’ve said countless times, your sex life is your business and no one else’s. While Farrah has publicly chosen to show her sex life on camera and discuss it openly, it doesn’t make her a slut. And even if you think she is one, it’s really not your place to say so.

I see where Chrissy was coming from because Farrah appears to be doing a lot of things just for publicity. But I also think Chrissy was wrong in calling Farrah a slut and a whore publicly. It’s certainly something that didn’t need to be blasted out on social media.

The thing is, your definition of a slut can be very different from someone else’s definition. Personally, I don’t think it’s wrong to sleep with someone you’re not dating. But a lot of people will (and have) disagree with me. A lot of people will call me a slut, even though I am not. Slut is a subjective word.

Chrissy did say something very wise during this whole debacle that really made a lot of sense:

There is such a stigma against the word slut, so much that girls in rape cases are being called sluts because they were “asking for it.” It has got to stop.


 
And I know. We talk about slut-shaming all the time. But we’re not going to stop talking about it until it stops becoming an issue.
 
What do you think about slut-shaming? Is it ever okay to call someone a slut? Tell us in the comments!
 

Just stop sex-shaming in general

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  • Nicole

    You overly soft wusses shrieking “slut shaming is wrong!” make laugh. Slut shaming has been around since the birth control pill was invented; it’s not going to go away. Furthermore, people are allowed to have their own opinions, and are allowed to voice their own judgments as they please.. even if it means calling someone a slut, for whatever reason they believe. I used to get offended when people called me a slut, that is, until I grew a thick skin unlike the rest of you. Quit getting your panties in a wad over other people’s opinions, it’s not even serious. Get over it and focus your worries elsewhere.

  • mahsa

    sluts have no respect for themselves so why should we have?!

    • Podi

      Enjoying sex and being sexually active has nothing to do with self-respect.
      A woman’s worth in not based on how much sex or how many sexual partners she has.
      Sex is something completely natural that almost all of us desire, there is nothing wrong or shameful about it. There is nothing wrong about casual sex either. You don’t have to enjoy it, but don’t shame others for doing so.

      http://31.media.tumblr.com/24d13a3f4dd28b92951132e636042010/tumblr_n7odv2LmKG1rdf0wdo2_1280.jpg

      • Nicole

        Some people believe sex and self respect go hand in hand, so what? I personally don’t see how treating yourself as a sex object is anything respectful. Also, you don’t have to sleep around with multiple people to enjoy sex.. you’re saying couples in monogamous relationships never enjoy sex? Your argument is rather invalid. When you say sex and self respect have nothing to do with each other, that’s really just your opinion. Also, some people place higher value on women (and men) who haven’t given their bodies to so many people. Deal with it cupcake. Don’t try and preach your opinions as though they’re facts.

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  • Mirhanda

    Calling someone a slut is never okay. End of discussion.

  • fede_bertorelli

    last year i had a huge problem at school because we (girls) wrote things in the bathroom (like in every single school). i can see how i used to be, people say they have changed all the time, but you really dont know how it is until you do. i know that is very easy to call people a slut, but remember: it is not our problem other girls sex life… if they wanna be with 1000 guys in one night, thats her deal, her life , her choices, and it is not our job to tell them what ever they have to do or stop doing… plus: if she started to have sex earlier than you, then it was because she was ready…

  • Anon

    She’s not a slut, but she IS a whore. ie she had sex for money. And how invalid was your argument about her tape being public? She put it out there, like any other movie it is open for discussion.

  • Gina

    No girl is a slut, even if she teases a lot and doesn’t put out. The worst thing a girl can do is tease guys but not give them good wholesome sex!

    • Lauren

      I think that’s a dangerous way of thinking… No one ever owes anyone sex.

  • kara

    honestly, i think whoever wrote this article doesnt understand that most people that would be considred “sluts” usually know it and know that its what others think of them. if they do then there is nothing wrong with others thinking or calling them a slut. i personally know girls that are okay with guys calling them “slut” and “bitch” even though i would sock him in the face if a boy said that to me. so they shouldnt be surprised and dont have much of a right to feel bad and all that crap about being viewed as a slut because they themsleves know that they are and are not doing anything to change it

    • clazzyangellove

      First off I believe that allowing people any gender to call each other “sluts” is wrong it is saying that if you like it then all like it. And not all women or men do. And yes i do think the image of a slut is distorted. A slut can not be defined because no one is a slut. just because you sleep with a guy does not mean you are a slut HELLO how do all of you think you got here?? Are your mothers and grandmothers sluts. NO NO NO it is just human nature to reproduce! So NO i do not think it is okay in an case to call any one a slut!

      • kara

        being slut doesnt have anything to do with sleeping with people in my opinion. im not a virgin anyways and most of my friends arent but theyre not sluts. i know total nerds that nobody would think of as a slut that are not virgins. so people need to stop bringing up sex when it comes to slut shaming and all that

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  • jenna

    it is a harsh thing to say to a person, but people should have more tact and decency in public. if they don’t want that kind of ridicule and attention, then they should be less conspicuous about it (or not do it at all.)
    personally, i feel that girls should learn to have more class. the way some act and carry themselves now is horrendous.

    • cherrichan7

      And so should boys, who can go around doing exactly the same with no negative side effects~

      No, I think people shouldn’t have to worried about getting that kind of attention in the first place, they should be able to do what they like without listening to the immature people who can’t handle it, just like boys can :D

      • Rose

        Well I judge both males and females because I personally find it disgusting. I still respect them though I just keep it to myself until they make me lose respect for them at least.

        I say if you put information out there expect to be judged positively and negatively. I’m disabled and I hate when people act like I can’t do stuff and constantly help me but I don’t call it “disability-shaming” I just call it annoying, misjudging and/or ignorance

        • clazzyangellove

          This is the USA and that does give us the simple rights to have freedom! So yes we can do what ever we want and be okay but there is another part to that saying. If you want do what ever you want please respect the others around you nobody wants to know what you have or who you did. You are not a slut if you do it in public you just are very open and maybe should keep some secrets.