Dealing with sexism can be really tough because you want to fight back, but you also don’t want to give a sexist person the satisfaction of getting under your skin. This week, y’all have been discussing sexist guys in school and how to deal with it.
Let’s see what you had to say!
Best advice… ignore them.
They are just immature, stupid or ignorant and sexist. Though they also might not be as sexist as they let on and are just trying to get under your skin which is still just immature and stupid. Even if you ignore them they will continue for at least awhile, but don’t let it get to you and don’t show them that it is affecting you. If they see that is making you mad or upset, it will just make the situation worse. In this situation, you aren’t going to change their minds by arguing with them or trying to prove yourself so it is better just to drop it. Hopefully someday if they really are sexist they will change their minds when they are in a serious relationship with a woman or have daughters of their own.
Unfortunately, it is the world we live in. As a female, I don’t let things like that get to me. Brush it off. Do your best. These guys do not matter! What they think shouldn’t impact you. It will bother them even more if you show it doesn’t bother you.
You can tell them to read Sheryl Sandberg. She wrote a bestselling book on career advice for women. She is the Chief Operating Officer of Facebook, essentially second in command to Mark Zuckerberg and she went to Harvard so the sexist males can suck it.
I’ll just throw it out there: sexism sucks. It really does. I grew up mostly around guys and was always the punchline of sexist jokes. As much as I’d love to tell you that sexism goes away when guys get older, I can’t. At 23 I’m still dealing with sexism in my daily life. It doesn’t suck any less, but I’ve gotten much better at handling it.
When I was in school, I would get so mad at guys in my class for making sexist jokes or claiming that girls weren’t as good guys. And they were looking for a reaction. They wanted the girls to get upset and angry. They wanted us to quip back because they thought it was funny.
Dealing with sexist guys is a lot like dealing with a bully because they are bullies. Bullies want a reaction, and sexists do too. The best thing to do is to take the high road and ignore them. When they don’t get a reaction out of you, they’ve failed.
No matter how valid your argument is and no matter how many times you talk about your good grades or all the amazing women there are, sexist guys don’t care. If you ignore the comments, you take away their power to upset you, which is what they wanted in the first place.
Have you ever dealt with sexist guys in class? How did you handle them? What did you say? Tell us in the comments!
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