Liam Hemsworth and Miley Cyrus have had their relationship in the headlines for months now. That’s in part because when their relationship was going really well, Miley had no problem making her private life public: She posted a ton of photos together, gushed about Liam in interviews and generally invited people in.
The problem with that is, whether or not you’re a celeb, when you make your private life public–even if it’s just by changing your relationship status on Facebook or something–people feel entitled to know every detail about it. And that’s when gossip starts.
In a new interview, Miley explained why she’s not so chatty about her relationship with Liam anymore, despite the massive rumor mill around whether or not they’ll get married. “We have a house together and dogs,” Cyrus told the mag. “It just seems right to be wearing this ring and to be committed. But we keep our relationship low-key and don’t talk about it any more.”
Miley also gave some good advice about putting your personal life online: ”We were too nice to the world and gave them too much insight–into my life and my puppies and my house–and I just don’t feel they get that privilege anymore. Like on my Twitter, I’m much more . . . not conservative, but you don’t see a picture of my dogs. You don’t get that personal stuff any more.”
Smart move, Miley! Of course, we don’t think anyone’s gossiping about her rescue dogs or that people would start rumors based on photos of your new hamster or anything, but think about it: When you’re dating a guy and you gush to everyone you know about it, what happens when your relationship hits a rocky patch? Everyone feels like they knew about it and feels the need to gossip at that point. And that can make bad situations a lot worse. Remember when Liam was rumored to cheat on Miley with January Jones?
That’s gotta hurt, but imagine having it plastered across magazines and TV all the time. That probably won’t happen to most of us–but if you’re subtweeting and posting vague, angsty Facebook statuses about your relationship, chances are people are still snickering and speculating about it.
And that becomes dangerous, because when word spreads around, eventually it gets back to you and your guy. And if you’re truly having problems, it can make them a lot worse when trust issues are involved–and if you’re genuinely okay with one another, it can potentially create drama that didn’t even exist before. And the more you blab, even about seemingly harmless stuff, the more uncomfortable your partner may feel and the less likely they may be to confide in you.
That’s not to say you can’t be proud of your relationship and want people to know you’re happy with someone awesome–and goodness knows you’re a bragging right to any dude lucky enough to land you! But you might just want to think twice about how public you make your romance, especially online. Even if it’s as simple as making a special list of specific friends who can see your tagged couple-y photos or refraining from tweeting when you’re in a fight, the steps you take to keep your personal life personal and your private life private will pay off–especially if you wind up ending the relationship at some point. (Who wants to deal with a broken heart and a bunch of Facebook comments on your relationship status change? Ugh!
Plus, isn’t it sort of fun to have some stuff that’s just between you and your dude? It’s a way to bond!
Do you think Liam Hemsworth and Miley Cyrus are right to not talk about their relationship? Do you ever feel pressure to put your personal life online? How do you prevent people from gossiping about your private life? Tell us in the comments!