But I do regret telling my friends about it. My friend group at the time was not the same group I had by graduation. I was friends with a lot of people in school, but my main group was filled with a lot of shy, conservative and extremely religious girls. Most of them were not okay with the idea of sex before marriage, which is totally fine. I, however, believed that you could have sex when you wanted to.
One of my friend’s was on the fence about sex, so I told her because I wanted her to know that she could talk to me about it. But she told the rest of the group. And they got mad at me for it. One of them told me that she couldn’t believe I would disrespect myself like that.
Uh, excuse me? It is my body, my life, my choice. I never judged them for waiting, and I expected the same courtesy to not be judged for having sex.
It was really upsetting at that age because I didn’t quite know how judgmental your own friends could be. I fortunately had other friends in different groups that I started to spend more time with. But I endured a lot of mean looks across the cafeteria and heard a lot of nasty things muttered when I passed them in the halls. I learned that any real friend wouldn’t judge me and abandon me for my decisions.
Thankfully, the friends that I have now aren’t like that. They love me no matter what I do and are always supportive.
Sex is a very personal thing, and your sex life is no one’s business. Even though I made it a friend’s business by telling her about it, it wasn’t her business to tell the rest of the group.
I know that I didn’t do anything wrong because I did what was right for me. I just wish my friends had seen it that way too.
Have you lost your virginity? Did your friends get mad at you for it? Did you get mad at your friends for losing theirs? Tell us in the comments!