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Sex is really intimate, and you need to make sure you’re ready to take that step with another person before losing your v-card. Losing your virginity often is not like the way it is in movies. You need to know that awkward things can and will happen.
I’m going to go through some ways that you can tell if you’re ready or not ready so click through for your complete guide to losing your virginity!
Would You Rather?
The right person can show up at any minute, so no, I don’t think this age and marriage argument counts for much. Love is love. If someone falls in love with a tree, well, let them get married. Free love lol. It’s not something that can be restricted to a certain clique. Personally I reckon there should be condom machines in high schools to reduce unwanted teen pregnancies. And I have found out that I am ready even if I’m only 16 and whatnot. Love is love.
Rage&Love people.
~Rust
I don’t think that anyone should stop a person from having this kind of relationship.
Even though girls can be vulnerable, in this experience, they will be tougher. They will learn from their mistakes. If we’re back in the old days – no computers and such – they wouldn’t be scared. It’s the people around them that makes them scared about this.
Personally, I think that, depending on the laws where you live, you should wait until you are both legally adults to have sex, just to avoid any kind of legal problems or overreacting parents suing for rape of a minor if the boyfriend is an adult and she isn’t. Besides that, when you have sex is totally up to you. I’m personally waiting until I’m done with high school and moved out so that it can be perfectly private and we can take our time without having to worry about when parents are coming home.
I don’t like how everyone is talking about age. Age doesn’t mean much. While I would rather have everyone wait until they were adults, what I really want is for people to wait until they are mature and in a stable relationship. Trust me, being in college or being an adult or being married does NOT magically make you mature and/or able to have a stable relationship. While your chances of you brain maturing is higher, it doesn’t mean you’ll make more rational choices. The older you are, the more likely alcohol will be involved in your social situations, which impairs your judgement.
I don’t believe that you should have to wait until marriage either. I know plenty of religious couples who got married literally 2 months after knowing each other, and they had never even kissed before! Talk about awkward and painful and uneducated for the first time! Why do you think that people who wait until they’re married have kids 9 months later? No time to actually get to know each other or learn to trust each other or enjoy your marriage.
Sex should be comfortable, educated, and be with someone who loves you and trusts you as much as you love and trust them.
I lost my virginity when I was 17 and it was with my boyfriend who I had been with for 4 years. We had first seriously talked about sex when I was almost 16 and I started taking the pill soon after that, but we still waited for over a year. He and I are still together, our 7th anniversary is coming up soon, and we’re engaged.
My point is, you don’t have to be an adult to be mature and responsible or in a meaningful relationship. Age doesn’t matter when it comes to the right time to lose your virginity; maturity does.
I think teens could have sex (could being the key word here) i’m 16 and have yet to have sex for a number of reasons;there is no one i could see myself being that intimate with, and i don’t really see the point, being the main ones. Also i don’t know how some girls would like a sweaty teenager (most likely drunk) on top of me having no idea what he’s doing, ew. That would be a major let-down to me. Having sex is a choice, you can choose to have sex at 15/16 or 45 or after marriage, as long as you know the consequences and be smart and safe about it just like LittleRedWolfGirl says.
This has some really good advice
I really think people should wait until they’re 18, if you’re a teen younger, you’re just too young. And wait until you move out! You should be at least 18 and in a stable relationship. I really hate to see people being promiscuous and losing their virginity when they’re 15, 16, 17! It’s kind of disturbing how much teen zines have about sex.
Girls. No sex before college, please.
I don’t see why anyone would want to willingly go through all that pain. I remember my first time like it was yesterday. One minute we were talkin the next he forced me to have sex with him. And yes that does unfortunatly count, since that piece on skin was broke.
That’s not sex. Being forced into having sex with someone is rape, no matter if you’re in a relationship or not! You should always willingly consent and if you tell him no, he should ALWAYS stop and never force you.
I don’t think I was ready the first time I had sex and I was 19 almost 20 I only did it because I was caught up in the moment and me and my partner at the time hadn’t talked much about sex and I was with him for 6 and a half months now with my fiance we had sex 2 weeks after we became official but we had a long talk about it beforehand so I felt more ready to have sex with him even though I wasn’t a virgin anymore at that time
Girls should not be having sex as teenagers. They are too young for that. Sex should be saved for marriage, that’s what it’s supposed to be for.
Boomer it’s their choice. That’s your belief but it’s really our own choice
That’s a personal belief, Boomer. People can have sex when they WANT to; just because you believe it to be that way, that doesn’t mean others should have to.
Considering sex has been around long before the concept of marriage was created, I don’t think sex was meant for marriage. Also, even if you’re a teen, it’s OKAY to have sex, as long as you and your partner are both comfortable and prepared. Remember, states that have the strictest “abstinence only” sex education have the highest teen pregnancy rates. It’s so much better to be informed so you can be smart and safe, as opposed to just being told “don’t do it” and nothing else.