Does Using A Vibrator Make It Harder To Orgasm During Sex?

Vibrators are great – but can you get used to the orgasms you get from using them that you start to no longer orgasm during sex? Vibrator users, read on: 

ChickRx expert Dr. Kathy McMahon, Clinical Psychologist, Diplomate of Sex Therapy, says: 

The short answer? No. Using a vibrator actually helps a lot of women learn how to orgasm. 

But if you’re asking whether it makes it harder to have orgasms with a partner, the answer is, “it depends.” We are creatures of habit, so if we go for years having an orgasm just one way, our bodies develop an association with that particular way of reaching orgasm. But that doesn’t mean we can’t learn other ways. The trick is to take a step-by-step approach to connecting the way you want to orgasm with the way you are currently reaching an orgasm. 

How do you do this? You make a “bridge,” meaning you stop right before you orgasm your “usual” way and bring some new technique (or person) in to complete the process. After a while, your body learns to orgasm this new way and you can remove the “old way” sooner and sooner from your orgasmic point of inevitability.

The vibrator’s sensations are hard to duplicate with hands, mouths or penises, but that really shouldn’t be a problem long-term. The problem is that many women who use only a vibrator are reluctant to incorporate this toy into sex with their partner.

Finally, let’s get real for a moment: There is no “right way” way to have an orgasm. If you are relaxed and having fun, every way is the “right way.” Some researchers say that the order of who has an orgasm first is important (the happiest heterosexual couples in one study said, “Ladies first”), but I’m not in favor of hard and fast rules. Aim for a variety of ways to rock on and focus on getting to higher levels of arousal and passion (which could go on for hours) rather than the orgasm itself (which is 5-15 seconds for most of us).

Got more questions? Post them in the comments below or head on over to ChickRx.com

 

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2 Comments

  1. avatarpinkheart says:

    I would love for my guy to use a vibrator on me. I could see it being used to help and not just being used without engaging in sex with his penis.

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