It seems like there’s a stigma with us Gurl girls that we’re these super-extreme feminists who hate men and think women can’t wear makeup or cute outfits. That is so not the case! We love the male species! We think makeup is great! We love cute outfits!
We absolutely love hearing your opinions and what you have to say. That’s part of why the Gurl community is so special! I personally want you to feel like you can come to us and have great discussions.
But comments are coming in that a lot of you don’t want to identify yourself as feminist because you think it has a bad connotation. I agree that in the past feminism had a bad reputation. But being a feminist is not a bad thing, and it hurts me to the depths of my soul that some of you feel that way!
Feminism is by definition “the theory of the political, economic, and social equality of the sexes.”
Do you think humans should be equal? Then you are a feminist.
I wrote an article years ago about feminism, and I said “I’m not a feminist, but…” I don’t regret much in my life, but I regret uttering those words. I couldn’t have been more wrong about my own views on feminism, not to mention the idea in general.
For a long time, I didn’t understand feminism. I thought being a feminist meant I had to hate all men and that I couldn’t be cute or let a guy pay for dinner. And that simply is not true. Are there feminists that hate men and don’t want to wear makeup and won’t let guys do anything for them? Yes. But that is not the majority.
The reason I write about things like sexist magazine spreads and how offensive it is when a male professor degrades women in class is because these are important issues. It’s because feminism isn’t “done” yet. I don’t think I realized how sexist the world can be until I was getting harassed every day on the street. Or until a guy I was seeing was legitimately upset that an all-girl team beat his team in bowling. Or until I saw how many girls say they aren’t feminists.
The reason I talk about feminism is to have these kinds of conversations. I went for too long without truly understanding what feminism was, and I want you to understand it. I want you to be strong and be able to stand up for yourself when you are not treated equally. Like if you’re mistreated by a professor because you refused his advances. Or if you have a boss who thinks you’re his secretary on top of your job just because you’re a woman. Or if your boyfriend tells you to get back in the kitchen where you belong.
While some of your comments are breaking my heart, I do want to thank you because it made me think (the other Gurl staffers can attest that I’ve been talking about this forever) about my own views on feminism and how we can create a better understanding of it.
Do you think that being a feminist is a bad thing? Do you think feminism means you have to be on the extreme side of it? Are you a feminist? Tell us in the comments!