I’m in high school and still haven’t had my first boyfriend yet… but I have this huge crush on a guy at school. Someone told me he likes me too and the other day he asked me to hang out. I really want to but the only problem is that he’s shorter than me. I feel really awkward about it. Is it okay to date someone who’s shorter than me or is that weird? I feel like everyone is going to make fun of us. I don’t know what to do, help!
Let me start this out with a story: When I was in high school, I was friends with a girl who was in the same situation as you are – she liked a guy who was shorter than her and he liked her also. They started going out and a few people teased her for being taller than her boyfriend. Even though she seriously liked this guy, the teasing eventually got to her and she broke up with him. About a year later, she ran into him and discovered that not only had he hit puberty, but he had also shot up in height and was now a lot taller than her. Not surprisingly, she was suddenly interested in him again. She did everything she could to win him back, but it didn’t work… and she was the only one left miserable.
That might sound like a lame story I just made up to ultimately get my point across, but it’s very much the truth. You’re not the first girl to think twice about dating a guy who is shorter than her. But here’s the thing: there is absolutely nothing wrong with dating a dude who’s not as tall as you. In fact, it’s kind of silly to throw away what could be a great relationship just because of someone’s height.
If you genuinely like this guy and he likes you back, then I think that you should definitely give him a chance. Think of it this way: would you like to be judged based on some part of your physical appearance that you have no control over? Probably not. So it’s not fair to automatically reject him over his height. If you get to know him and find out that you guys have a connection, the fact that he’s short will most likely stop mattering to you. After all, his height has nothing to do with his personality and what kind of person he is.
The truth is, there may be some people out there who will tease you guys for your height difference and that sucks, but it’s something you have to learn to ignore if being with him is worth it. Or, don’t ignore it. If people have something to say about it, let them know it’s not cool and you don’t appreciate what they’re saying.
Another thing to keep in mind? If you two are in high school, chances are, he hasn’t hit his full height yet. Guys hit puberty later in life than girls do and they can actually keep growing until they’re in their early 20’s. It’s totally possible that your crush will grow a few inches within the next few months or years and end up being a lot taller than he is now. And then you’ll be stuck in the same position as my friend, who seriously regretted the fact that she let her ex go over his height.
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