Real talk: a few years ago, I read the super popular book He’s Just Not That Into You and it changed my life. Or, it changed my dating life. And no, that is not a dramatic statement. This book really did open my eyes to the behavior guys will exhibit when they like a girl and when they don’t like a girl. In all honesty, it’s easy to tell if he doesn’t like you – it’s just that sometimes, we’re so blinded by love that we just refuse to see it.
But seriously, girls? Opening your eyes and admitting to yourself that he doesn’t like you can only help you. Yeah, it sucks – but it can also stop you from continuing to put yourself in a position where you’re only going to get hurt. If a few of these reasons below apply to your crush who’s been acting weird, then it’s possible that he just isn’t crushing on you back. Your best bet is to move on and find someone who does like you. There’s no point in trying to change his mind. So, if you’ve been wondering if he’s into you or not, read this list – and remember this stuff forever.
He Never Calls Or Texts FirstIt's pretty simple: when a guy likes you, he wants to talk to you. And if he wants to talk to you, he's going to text you or call you. Sure, it's fine to sometimes be the one who reaches out, but if you're the only one initiating any sort of conversation, that's a good sign that he's not into you. If a guy really wants to talk to you, he's almost never too busy to send a quick text, so don't be so quick to buy his excuses for why he hasn't gotten in touch. Source: ShutterStock
He Doesn't Talk Or ListenWhen he does text you or talk to you, what does he say? If a dude is texting you and only sending a one word answer to your long paragraph, that's a sign that he's trying to subtly hint that he's not interested. If he never asks you any questions about your day or about you in general, that means he doesn't care to get to know you. And if you know nothing about him? That means he doesn't want to open up to you. Source: ShutterStock
He Only Hangs Out To Hook UpWhen a guy likes you, he wants to impress you - and only bringing you up to his dirty room to make out on the bed isn't exactly impressive. If a guy is into you, he wants to know more about you than just what you look like naked. He'll want you to know that, so he'll take you out or make an effort not to make everything about sex. If he only calls you after 11 PM to hook up, that is a good sign that the only thing he wants from you is to get into your pants - and please don't confuse that for a crush. Source: ShutterStock
He Bails On You Without A Backup PlanIf you guys make plans, whether it's to go out or just to hang at his house, and he bails on you, pay attention to what he does afterwards. If he just says, "Can't make it tonight, sorry," and nothing else? Not a good sign. If he says, "Can't make it tonight. Are you free tomorrow instead?" Good sign. That means he genuinely feels bad about cancelling and still wants to see you. If he bails without saying anything else, that means he really doesn't care. And if he keeps bailing and making more plans and then bailing again? That means he doesn't have the balls to tell you he's not interested. Source: ShutterStock
He ALWAYS Has An ExcuseThis is similar to bailing on you without a backup plan. Maybe he never asks you to hang out, so instead you decide to take the reigns and ask him to hang out. If he constantly has some sort of lame excuse, that again means that he doesn't have the guts to just say no. He's hoping you'll eventually just stop asking so he doesn't have to be the bad guy (makes no sense). An excuse once in a while can, of course, be legit, but if it happens more often than not, it's probably not. If a guy wants to see you, he WILL find a way. Trust me. Source: ShutterStock
He's Weird In Social SituationsIf you two really hit it off when you're alone cuddling in bed together, but he gets weird the second you're somewhere public, take it as a bad sign. If he acts super distant with you in school or at a party, that means he doesn't want other people to think there's something going on. That's not only mean, it's also shady. If a guy likes you, he won't be afraid to flirt with you in front of his friends or your friends. Source: ShutterStock
He Flirts With Other Girls In Front Of YouStory time: One night, one of my guy friends was hanging out with a bunch of my friends and I. We took some pictures that were totally innocent and one of them was of me and him. When I put it on Facebook, he texted me to ask very nicely if I could take it down because he didn't want the girl he was pursuing to see it and get the wrong idea. THIS, ladies, is what a guy will do when he likes a girl. He will make sure you don't think he's interested in other girls because he doesn't want to lose you. If he's obviously flirting with other girls in front of you? He wants you to know he's not tied down. Source: ShutterStock
He Talks To You Like You're His BuddyAt the same time, if he has no problem telling you he thinks another girl is hot, that might also mean he doesn't really care about you. When I first met my boyfriend, he was hesitant to even admit to me he found Mila Kunis hot. I mean, come on. If a dude is talking to you like you're just one of the guys, that more than likely means that that is the only way he sees you. Source: ShutterStock
He Panics If You Get Too CloseIf he freaks whenever you bring up the word relationship or ask for plans for next weekend or anything like that, it could mean he's just scared of commitment... but it probably means he doesn't want a commitment with you. A guy once told me that dudes who say they don't want a relationship really mean they don't want one with you - because if they find the right girl, they'll be willing to take the leap, scared or not. Source: ShutterStock
Your Friends Are Weird About HimSometimes our friends, who are outside of the situation, can tell when our crush isn't into us. But since they're our friends, they don't want to hurt us by being the bearer of bad news. If your friends get kind of weird when you bring him up and try to steer you away from the guy, it's a good indicator that they think things aren't going to happen for one reason or another. Ask them to be completely honest with you about what they think and pay attention to their reaction - you'll be probably be able to tell if they're being genuine or not. Source: ShutterStock
Did these tips help you? What did I miss? How do you deal when you find out your crush doesn’t like you? Tell me in the comments.