Relationships are a big commitment. You’re making the jump from being an “I” to a “we,” and that can be a lot to handle. Relationships are great, but they require a bunch of thought before deciding to have one.

This week on the message boards, y’all are talking about what it means if you don’t like relationships. Does it mean something is wrong with you if you don’t?

Let’s see what you had to say!

Nobody said:

 I don’t think anythings really wrong with you. It’s just what you’re comfortable with and that’s what matters.

ooples said:

Maybe you’re afraid about committing? Staying with someone for so long, and you start to wonder how you can like (or even love) someone that long.

I think my problem with relationships is that I worry too much about being someone’s burden. I don’t ever want someone to think, “what I have to do all this for her…” I don’t like the idea of someone having a rough time for me. Because I will feel obliged to do the same, and I’m not sure if I’m capable of living up to that. And so I tend to push people away.

Wolf-Fire said:

Nothing wrong with that at your age to be honest really. All people mature differently in terms of when they want to deal with relationships. You sound just fine, and there is nothing wrong with you.

MomoMomone said:

Don’t worry, nothing is wrong with you, and there is nothing to fix. Some girls- and some guys- are just like that. Everyone is different when it comes to this stuff. So instead of thinking something is wrong with you, be proud of yourself for being different!

I don’t think there’s anything wrong with you if you don’t want or like relationships! They’re hard work, and they aren’t for everyone.

Have I been happy in relationships? Yes. Have I been happy out of relationships? Yes. Not wanting a relationship is totally okay. And you might just not want one right now because you’re not ready for that kind of commitment, which is perfectly normal.

The most important thing to remember is that you’re comfortable with your own decisions. If you don’t want a relationship, you shouldn’t feel like you have to be in one. If you’re happy not being in one, don’t let anyone else let you think that’s wrong.

Everyone has different preferences and makes different choices. As long as you’re staying true to yourself, that’s what matters!

Have you ever had a time when you didn’t like relationships? Were you ever in a relationship when you didn’t want to be? Tell us in the comments!

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