If a guy doesn’t know how to ask someone out, he may ask out a girl without her knowing! | Source: ShutterStock

You’re hot, so that makes you hard to ask out. Seriously. It came to my attention this week that a lot of guys either don’t know how to ask someone out or are just so terrified to do it that they’ll go about it in a really roundabout way that makes it tough to realize that’s even what they’re doing.

Case in point: My now-boyfriend and I went on our first super awkward date in January, but he actually revealed to me that he first tried to ask me out in October, but it went right over my head. Here’s why: His idea of “ask out” was “Are you going to the Maria Bamford show?” And I was. And so were about ten more of our friends, and considering he’d never really even flirted with me before, I just figured he was trying to get a headcount for where we’d all be sitting.

Could I be dense? Sure (especially when math is involved). But he could also be a bit of an endearingly adorable wuss. Thankfully, he’s also an honest one, so I got him to share some other lines guys will you to ask out girls they’re too smitten with and nervous to ask out directly.

“Are you going to [insert party, concert, festival, friend's house]” means “I really hope you’re going to [party, concert, festival, friend's house].”
The boy explained that if a guy asks if you’re attending something, he wants to go too–and this is going to help him plan out what to wear. If a guy asks if you’re going somewhere, chances are it’s because he’s hoping to sweep you off your feet once you get there . . . or he needs a ride. (You’ll know. Sometimes it’s both, and that’s fine too.)

“I hear [insert movie, restaurant, laser tag venue, paintball field, etc.] is really good” means “I really hope you suggest we go there together.”
He’s probably not just making conversation if it’s just the two of you–he wants you to do the heavy lifting of actually helping him make a plan because he’s not sure where he stands with you. Go easy on him!

“I’m going to [insert movie, outing, etc.], but I don’t think you’d be into it.”
It may come off as him being sort of a jerk, but chances are he’s actually just testing you! He wants you to contradict him (“But I’ve always wanted to do a Tough Mudder!”), that way he as an easy “in” to ask you out. “He’s using reverse psychology,” Awkward Dude explained. “Like when I said you probably sucked at video games, then took you to an arcade. I knew you didn’t suck.”

Have you ever been asked out without being asked out? How do you ask a guy out? What advice do you have on how to ask someone out? Would you ask out a guy indirectly? Tell us in the comments!

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