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Want to know how to get what you want in life? Take some tips from a diva. I know, I know… divas can get kind of a bad rep. When you describe, say, a pop star as a diva, it’s not always a compliment – I think a lot of people associate that word with qualities like being high-maintenance, narcissistic, bossy and very demanding. But here’s something that you may find surprising: the Wall Street Journal recently presented research that says being a diva can actually be healthy (as long as you’re not a full-time narcissist).
Why? Here’s a secret: being a diva can make you more successful. Divas know what they want and they’re not afraid to get it – and they can easily teach you a thing or two about how get what you want. Think about some of the most famously described divas in this world: Beyonce, Mariah Carey, Lady Gaga. These women are strong, independent, wildly successful and usually seen as role-models. Isn’t that something you would want to aspire to be?
So I took some classic diva qualities that I’ve both experienced in real life and read about in this WSJ piece and turned them into tips on how to get what you want. If you start doing this stuff, I can guarantee you’ll start seeing results and getting happier:
Be Confident
There is no possible way you can be a diva and get what you want if you're not confident in yourself. (If you need some help, check out these tips!) You need to believe in yourself and know how awesome you are in order to get other people to feel the same way. Confidence can do way more than just attract dudes - it changes the way other people see you and that's really important when you're looking to get exactly what you want. Source: ShutterStockDon't Get Too Cocky
Being confident is super important, but be very wary of the fine line between healthy amounts of self-esteem and narcissism. As the WSJ piece points out, being too full of yourself isn't good. Being arrogant will not only piss people off, it will also alienate them - and no one wants to do things for someone who thinks she knows it all. Sometimes you may need to be a little bit cocky, but like I said... be careful. Keep yourself grounded, no matter how successful you get. Source: ShutterStockLook Presentable
I'm not saying you have to dress in business suits and classy dresses every single day, but let's be real: walking around looking like a bum is probably not going to impress anyone. Looking presentable isn't just about showering, doing your hair and wearing something expensive - it's about nailing your own look and owning it. You don't need to spend a lot of money to do that. People are much more apt to take you seriously when you look like you care about yourself. This is especially important when you have a big event, like a job or college interview. Save the sweats for your lazy Sundays. Source: ShutterStockKnow What You're Good At And Work It
Part of being confident is knowing exactly what you're good at... and being a diva is being able to work those talents hard. Think about Beyonce: does there ever seem like there's a teensy bit of doubt in her mind that she can put on an amazing performance? No, it doesn't. She knows she can deliver a good show - and she does, every time. Focus on your talents and don't be afraid to toot your own horn when trying to get something you want. Source: ShutterStockDon't Be Afraid To Ask For What You Want
One extremely important part of getting what you want? Asking for it. That may seem obvious, but there are tons of people out there who are too nervous to ask for what they want out of fear of looking pushy and annoying. Yeah, maybe it is a little pushy - but that can be a good thing! Chances are, if you don't ask for a promotion or the grade you think you deserve but didn't get, you're not going to get it. Same goes for relationships - if you're crushing on a dude, don't be afraid to go after him. Sitting quietly by on the sidelines is unfortunately going to get you nowhere. Source: ShutterStockDemand Respect
Demanding respect from people is another thing that comes from being confident. In order to get people to respect you (and, thus, listen to your opinions and ideas more), you need to respect yourself. When someone compliments you, say thank you instead of disagreeing. Don't put yourself down in front of others, because then they'll think it's okay to put you down also. When someone does something messed up to you, don't be afraid to say something. Which brings us to our next tip... Source: ShutterStockStand Up For Yourself
Another way to demand respect is by standing up for yourself. When you show people you're not a girl who can be messed with, they're going to be more impressed with you - and they're probably then going to be more willing to do what you want. Don't let people criticize you for no reason and don't let others stand in the way of you getting what you want. If someone tells you they don't believe in you, tell them they're wrong and make them truly believe that they'll one day eat those words. Source: ShutterStockKnow You're Worth It
Going after your goals can sometimes take a long time and be really difficult. Sometimes you might feel like you don't know if it's worth it. But you need to realize that you're definitely worth it - you deserve success and you deserve to get exactly what you want! Tell yourself that whenever you're feeling doubtful. This also applies to relationships. If you're dating someone who isn't treating you right, remind yourself that you deserve to date someone better than that. Source: ShutterStockEmpower Others
Being a role-model sort of comes along with being a diva. Jennifer Lopez, Lady Gaga and other famous divas are also role models for a lot of young girls (and guys) and that's because they empower others to be the best they can be. Someone who knows how to get what they want isn't afraid to lift others up just as much as they lift themselves up. Source: ShutterStockSurround Yourself With People Who Support You
This goes for friendships and relationships. Don't ever date a dude who doesn't believe in you or who wants to hold you back for selfish reasons. Date a guy who supports your decisions and is always standing by your side. Same goes for friends - if you have a frenemy who is constantly bringing you down, ditch her! Remember: you're worth more than that. Source: ShutterStockHow do you go after what you want? Do you think you’re a diva? Are you going to try these tips? Tell us in the comments.
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