Deciding when to have sex is a really big decision. Sex is a huge step in any relationship, and deciding if you’re ready or not can be pretty tough. Some people are ready earlier than others. Ultimately, it’s a personal choice that only you can make.

This week y’all are discussing if you should have sex now or wait.

Let’s jump right in!

Mad4Boys asked:

I’m 16 in 9 months, but my boyfriend (who I’ve been with for 4 months) is 16 in a year. However, he’s not a virgin and I am. Should I have sex with him before I’m 16 or should I have sex with him when I’m 16 and he’s still 15? I don’t know which I would regret more, but we’re both really ready to have sex and we don’t want to wait a whole year.

Wolf-Fire said:

If you are not sure, then you are not ready.

alegnatm said:

I don’t think you should base your decision on whether or not you are both 16. It should be about whether or not you think that you are ready, not about being a specific age when you lose it. It should be about being in love with the person and believing that they are important enough to give your virginity to, and also realizing that you are young and there is a chance that you are giving your virginity to someone that you may not be with for the rest of your life.

scuzz said:

You definitely are NOT ready. To me it just sounds like you want to “impress him” asap since he isn’t a virgin. Age doesn’t define when you are ready or which you would regret. If you really are ready you wouldn’t regret it at all.

Honestly, it sounds like you’re not ready. If you’re analyzing the age you are now or the age you will be in a few months to decide when you should have sex, you’re not ready. When making the decision whether or not to have sex, you should be considering the person and your feelings.

Are you in love? Are you comfortable with this person? Do you feel that your relationship is going to change negatively if you have sex? Do you feel pressured?

The mention of regret also is a sign that you’re not ready. You shouldn’t feel like you’re going to regret having sex one way or another if you truly are ready.

Sex is great, but it is a big decision. If you’re having any doubts, no matter what age you are, then you should wait until you don’t even have a question in your mind about it.

What do you think? Did you wait when you had doubts about your age? Tell us in the comments!

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