Approaching your crush to start a conversation can be terrifying – which is exactly why we’re here for you with these 10 tips on how to talk to your crush. Sometimes when you’re around someone who gives you butterflies in your stomach, it’s hard to remember how to say words or how to say something that doesn’t sound totally weird and creepy.
The good news? As long as you take a deep breath, remain calm and act confident, starting a conversation with your crush really isn’t so bad. In fact, it may work out only to your benefit! And if it doesn’t, at least you know that you gave it a shot. Plus, once you learn how to break the ice, talking to your crush in the future will be easier – at least a little bit. So check out these 10 tips on how to start a conversation and talk to your crush. You’ll thank us later.
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Be Calm & Confident
I don't know if I've said this enough, but guys dig confidence. If you're going to break the ice and start a conversation, you have to be confident. Mumbling and blushing through the only thing isn't ideal, although it happens (mostly to me, so don't worry). Try to be as confident and relaxed as you can be. Don't let the thought "I'M TALKING TO HIM" race through your mind - pretend you're talking to a close friend. Just try to relax as much as possible. And if you're not relaxed? Fake it 'till you make it, baby.
Make Eye Contact
Staring at the floor as you talk to this dude is not only going to be really impolite and weird, but it's also going to confuse him. Even if it makes you blush, make eye contact with him as you approach him and when you talk to him. Force yourself to do it! It will show that you're confident and it makes for an overall better conversation. Plus, that gives you an excuse to stare dreamily into his eyes.
Don't Act Stupid About Things You're Smart About
Don't pull a Cady from Mean Girls type of thing and act stupid about something you're definitely not stupid about just to start a convo. First of all, people can usually tell when someone is being genuine and if he thinks you're being fake, he's not going to be into it. Second of all, if he catches you in your lie, then you are going to look stupid. You also shouldn't try to pretend you're into something you're not just to talk to him. Find a topic you feel comfortable discussing and go from there.
Use School (Or Work) To Your Advantage
If you guys are in the same class, or classes, then perfect - you've already got an in! Catch up with him as he's walking out the door and say something like, "Hey, do you know what we're supposed to do for this homework assignment/test?" Or, if you know he's good at that subject and you genuinely aren't, you can say something like, "Hey do you know the answer to this? I need help." The same goes for work - you've already got plenty to talk about, so just pick something easy.
Ask About A Mutual Interest
Maybe you saw him reading your favorite book or maybe you overheard him talking about a movie you also saw just last week. Or maybe you noticed he was listening to a band that you also like. Whatever it is, take a mutual interest and run with it. Say something like, "Have you ever seen that band live?" or "What did you think of that movie? I loved it!" or "Oh, I love that book too!" These are such easy ice-breakers and are almost guaranteed to start a convo.
Try A Simple Compliment
I'm not saying you have to run up to your crush and be all like, "you're a sexy beast" but a small, innocent compliment could be a perfect way to start talking. If he's wearing a nice shirt, you can say something simple like, "I love that shirt!" If he said something smart in class, you can be like, "By the way, I totally agreed with you in there. Nice work!" It doesn't come off as too desperate or too flirty but it will still pique his interest.
Ask To Borrow A Pencil
Asking to borrow something is another great and easy way to start up a conversation. Just make sure you don't let things end there. Say something like, "Hey, do you have a pencil I can borrow?" and then go into something else like, "Oh, cool watch" or something like that. You get what I'm saying.
Practice Makes Perfect!
If you're seriously freaking out and you sort of already know what you want to say, try practicing in front of a mirror before you actually speak to your crush. You might feel really silly, but it might make you feel more comfortable with the words so that you're less likely to stutter or mumble.
Try To Avoid Boring Small Talk
Please try to think of something else to say other than, "Wow, it's cold out there, huh?" I know this is an easy way to start talking, but it's just kind of boring and honestly not very memorable. Try to come up with something more creative and use the weather as a last resort.
Remember To Smile
Anytime you talk to your crush, remember to have a big smile on your face. I know, I know, I sound like a cheerleader, but seriously... smiling will make you seem much more approachable and easy to talk to. Do you think he's going to get the hint that you like him if you stare at him with dead eyes and no expression on your face? Probably not.