Honestly, the news I read about Ryan Gosling this week kind of broke my heart a little bit – not because it was anything bad, but because it made me extra sad that he’s not my boyfriend. According to Page Six, Ryan recently got into a little bit of a fight with a photographer so that he could defend his girlfriend, Eva Mendes.
Here’s what went down: Ryan and Eva were walking into their hotel in New York City when a fashion photographer spotted Eva (he had recently worked with her on a shoot) and called out, “Hey, baby!” Ryan went into his superhero mode that we’ve all become pretty used to and, according to an eyewitness, “completely flipped out, and it got heated. Ryan got in the guy’s face and said, ‘Who are you calling baby?’ Eva had to jump in and calm everyone down before it came to fisticuffs. Ryan than made nice and shook the guy’s hand.”
Not only did this make me cry a little bit (because why, WHY, are we not dating?), but it also made me think about something: are you cool with it when your boyfriend defends you? Or would you be cool with it if it happened?
Your first reaction might be, “yeah, duh.” After all, why wouldn’t you want your boyfriend to defend your honor? It seems sweet and protective and like such a boyfriend-ly thing to do, right? Well, as someone whose boyfriend recently defended her in front of some creepy rando, I can tell you that it’s not all that it’s cracked up to be. In fact, it’s kind of embarrassing (unless Ryan Gosling is doing it. Then it’s fine).
Want to hear my story? Okay, cool. My boyfriend and I were shopping when an older guy walked by us. I didn’t notice this happening, because I was on my phone, but according to my BF, when the guy walked past, he turned around to stare me up and down. Ew. My boyfriend yelled, really loudly, “Like what you see? Get your eyes off my girlfriend *word I can’t write on Gurl*.” My face turned bright red and I snapped at him, “What are you doing?!” then ran into the nearest store to hide.
Here’s the thing: when your boyfriend defends you, it’s sort of sweet (to me, at least). It’s nice to know that he doesn’t want anyone disrespecting you or treating you in a way that you shouldn’t be treated. Sometimes it’s nice to feel like someone is protecting you. When my BF stands up for me in a way that isn’t combative, I love it. I would do the same for him!
But at the same time, being defended in a public way, like Eva and I were, is also kind of really embarrassing. Sometimes your BF ends up just blowing up the situation and making things awkward for everyone. The other thing is that it can make your boyfriend seem sort of possessive, which isn’t always the way you want people to see your BF. If he defends you in an angry way, it’s embarrassing and sometimes uncalled for.
I think it’s fine for your boyfriend to defend you sometimes. But I don’t think it’s fine for him to treat you like you’re his property and no one else can look at you or talk to you. That’s not cool.
But what do you think? Is it sweet or embarrassing when your boyfriend defends you? Has a guy ever defended you the way Ryan did with Eva? Tell me in the comments!