8 Tips On How To Trust Your Boyfriend If He Cheated

Learning how to trust someone can be hard – but learning how to trust a cheater? That is way more difficult.

Maybe you just discovered that your boyfriend is a cheater – either he cheated on you, or you found out that he has cheated in the past. If he cheated, it’s okay to agree to give him a second chance if you want. But once you decide to do that, you need to learn how to trust him again and that’s where things can get tricky.

So how do you trust your boyfriend after he cheats? It will take some time and effort, but if you think he’s worth it, then maybe you should go for it. Here are some tips to help you guys build your relationship back up to where it once was.

Have you ever taken back a cheater? How did it go? Did you find these tips helpful? Tell us in the comments.


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  • Kezea

    me and my partner (father of my son) seperated 2yrs ago when he migrated in the US just recently he admitted to me that he used to have a girlfriend there but it was only for fun with his co workers anf his current situation adds up because he is now leaving with a girl freind and his half brother when we have videocalls i can actually see the girl watching tv with him in diff. sofas and of course i cant spend the whole day with him in skype because i need to care of my son so after we ended the call i dont knw what will happen to them because most of the time only the two of them left in the house because of their diff. working schedules. i am now confused because even hr admitted that he is not cheating anymore i an still something my mind is still restless.. we’ve been 10 yrs. already

  • Anonymous

    My boyfriend and I have been dating for two and a half years and are each other’s first significant others. We’ve broken up a few times (mostly because I wanted to) and then in May he broke up with me a month after he started a new job because we were fighting a lot and we didn’t speak for four days (the longest we’ve ever gone without talking). I was insecure and we moved past it but then two weeks ago I found texts he sent to a girl at work. Nothing too flirty, but he was telling her not to stress about school (they go to the same college). He didn’t tell me about it even though we always agreed we would. We even talked about it two days before. I found the messages and he apologized, offered to quit his job, etc. Is this as awful as I feel it is?! I am even more insecure. I don’t know if he was interested in her and testing the waters or just being nice as he claims he was. He “was afraid I’d be mad” even though we had just talked about it (involving the same girl because he let her borrow a book and told me about it).

  • gigi o

    My boyfriend cheated on me after 4 months of dating with his ex. He was on his knees begging me to take him back saying he didnt know what he wanted but now he knows he wants to try with me. I made him delete his facebook and all female contacts except his mom me his grandma and his one sister in law. He promised he wouldnt talk to ANY girl but blood related girls. And after we turned 5 months we were in school and he started taking a long time to get to me he usually took 2 minutes and he was taking 5 minutes so i knew something was going on so i asked him and he said no but i knew he was lying so the next day i went to were he comes from class and i saw him walking with a girl and when they saw me she got red and mad and walked off and he got red and got really nervous n scared and said “shes my cousin…wait no shes not im sorry idk why i said that”and i broke up with him. Then after a month of not talking he called me begging for me bad and i promised myself i wouldn’t care this time but here we are almost a year together and i love him and he loves me and so far after that nothing has happened and he has changed. He really wants to be with me but we fight non stop every day about i am way too jealous and how i dont trust him when he goes with his uncles and cousins i get mad because they’re super bad influences that they would tell him to cheat on me and he’d listen because he doesnt think when hes with other guys. And i cant trust him and that wont ever change but i have stopped showing it to him im jealous and its helped but right now im stuck trying to figure out if this relationship is worth the rest of my life because he told me straight up he doesnt want a career he wants to be a stay at home dad or have a minimum wage job while im making the real money(im going to be a pharmacist) and i dont know if thats going to work so…. Idunno…. Im in high school hes a senior im a junior…. Any advice..?

  • Christina

    The day after valentines day my bf of almost a year at the time decided to cheat after we spent the whole evening with his family. When I left we kissed n told each other how much we loved each other. At that point he had asked me to marry me many times. Following day I found out I was pregnant n couldn’t be more happy. The day after that he came to me with what I experienced as the most emotionally psi full thing I’ve ever gone through. The girl threaten him to contact me via Facebook which she eventually did so he had to tell me. She send me all the texts he texted her. Not fun. Making me out to be a needy person he wanted to break up with. Telling his mom n family.
    Very humiliating.
    Reading sex text he wrote to her n all the horrible things he said about me was absolutely devastating especially being pregnant.
    They meet during a bootcamp n saw each other everyday there for 2-3 weeks. Saw each other 3 times outside the camp. On the third time they had sex. 3 TIMES. Him coming inside her first time then asking if he could do it again.
    He said as soon as he left he knew he had made a huge mistake. He cut all contact. Wrote an official oppologi on fb cried made promises n begged. Tired of hearing it?
    I’m stunned u don’t think it’s normal. That’s what u do for each other. It’s sad u feel u don’t want to. I do. Not wanting do do that is using the other for whatever reason.
    We have had a really rough time and after 6 months I still think about it n feel sick to my stomach. I’m not sure I can ever move past this. I love him very deeply but things r not the same for me.
    Something died. I lost my baby at 21 weeks. My heart is just so broken I don’t think I can ever heal.

    • Christina

      Please disregard from; Tired of hearing it? To for whatever reason. It was pasted in from somewhere. Didn’t write it.

  • anonymous

    Thank God i found thiss!!! so ive been with my bf for almost 6 years.. a little after 2 yrs of being together i found out he was having an affair with some girl, and maybe different other girls as well that to this day i dnt know aboutt.). i confronted him and he stopped for a while.. after a few months he went back to her.. i eventually confronted both and she went away and he was doing okay.. around on the 4rth year i went through his old email and saw that he would go on craigslist and talk to girls and try to meet up.. he says he never didmeet up and the way the mssgs went it also seems like they never did.. same year i found 2 condoms in some shorts.. (we never use condoms).. which i started thinking, if this guy is having condoms and cheating on me i should have him wear them, i honestly do not want to catch anything and he is the only one ive ever been with..i am also the type of girl not to party hard, i found out he would lie to me and say hes hanging out with his friends but in reality he was either at parties or clubs..he tends to sometimes look at girls at the clubb when we go, and it makes me feel so insecuree..i dnt have any reasons to feel insecure, i mean am not a Goddess but i am pretty and have an awesome personality from what people tell me. after all these incidents i have not ran into any thing anymore.. we live together, but i still have a huge problem with gaining trustt. sometimes i trust him and other times i get this huge feeling he is messing up again.. i sometimes just think if he will ever really stop or has stopped? curiosity seems to be eating me up. i love him, but idk how to trust him again..he said that it was the past and he was young and that we are older now but still idk if tht is jst an excuse or idk? i have all his passwords and i have access to check his phone and all that and never find anything but i still dnt know if i can trust him.. i really am so confusedd.. i love him but it hurtss! idk if i ask for too much, i mean i always tel him to txt me right away or answer my calls and he does, we live together and we hang with the same people.. idk,ive gave this guy 6 almost 7 yrs of my life.. someone helpp with advice please..

    • Alex-london

      Honestly, you’ve had a long run! Unfortunately we can all be to forgiving sometimes, my advice would be do more for you, go out more just you and your friends, the more your in the world you start to realise that you can do better, someone could offer you so much more, love isn’t anything without trust! I understand you love him but is he loving you when he’s with other women? Are you willing to spend the rest of your life worrying because one man can’t keep it in his trousers when you could find one man who will adore you for what u are and stay faithful to you? It’s your happiness that counts.