During college, my boyfriend and I were in a long-distance relationship on a few different occasions, from summer vacations to our study abroad. Now my boyfriend and I live in the same city, but sometimes it feels like we’re still in a long-distance relationship since we only see each other for a little while on the weekend. That may sound like a bad thing, but to be honest, there’s a lot I like about distance in a relationship.
Let me say, I still agree with all the things that make long-distance relationships tough. Do I wish we saw each other more during the week? Totally. But I’ve found that thinking about the things that I really do like about the distance in our relationship has made it more bearable. Here are seven things that I feel are benefits of long-distance relationships:
You Don't Abandon Your FriendsNow certainly not everyone is guilty of this, but a lot of times when you start dating someone, it's easy to let other friends take a backseat. With my long-distance relationship, that was never the case. If anything it made my friendships stronger because I was looking for support for dealing with the tough parts of my BF being gone. In the end though, I love that a long-distance relationship never made me choose between my BF and friends. Source: Shutterstock.com
You Have Different ExperiencesI never feel held back because my boyfriend didn't want to do something because he wasn't around. Don't get me wrong, compromise is important in relationships, but it's also nice to not have to always weigh another person's preferences in. If I wanted to go on a day trip with my BFF, I didn't have to feel guilty for abandoning him. Plus, knowing we're not both going to do the same thing every day gives us something exciting to talk about! Source: Shutterstock.com
You Value ConversationSpeaking of exciting things to talk about, in a long-distance relationship, you really rely on conversation. When my boyfriend were in the same place a lot, our conversations were usually pretty short and we'd just kind of watch TV. I mean, we could always talk later. But with distance, you learn to rely on conversations with each other and really listen and share everything going on so that you can feel close. Source: Shutterstock.com
You Don't Take Them For GrantedIt wasn't until my boyfriend and I were studying abroad in separate places that I realized how much I liked him - and we'd been dating a year. The distance was such a wake-up call. I like that in a relationship with distance, I don't get bored of him around or forget why I like him. Distance seems to make me see my relationship more clearly than when he's right next to me. Source: Shutterstock.com
You Aren't Picky With DatesWhen close in distance, you might feel like you always end up sitting around together (which can get boring over time) or always going out and doing things (which can get exhausting and pricey over time). When you're separated by distance, both of these are always cool options when you finally are together. You're fine just getting to hang out because you never get to or you go out and do something fun to celebrate. Date night drama is limited! Source: Shutterstock.com
You Have Personal SpaceI'm talking physically, having personal space in your life. Sometimes I just want to totally sprawl all over the couch with nobody around me. It's freeing to just be alone and enjoy the quiet and freedom. It's nice not feeling like I always have to be around another person, even if it's someone I love. While at times the "distance" in long-distance can be a burden, often I find myself enjoying it. Source: Shutterstock.com
You Become IndependentI feel like one of the reasons my BF and I work so well is because we've both become very independent people. I still like to hear his advice and input, but I don't ever doubt that I can't do things without him around. Our significant others can be great cheerleaders for us, but long-distance relationships are a good reminder that you have the strength to do and accomplish what you want. Source: Shutterstock.com
Have you ever been in a long-distance relationship? What was the hardest part? Was there anything you actually liked about it? Tell us in the comments!