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heyitsmeya said:
“This started a little less than a year ago, when a new girl came into my school. She seemed quite sweet and shy, and so we let her into our friendship group which includes my twin sister and other close friends I’ve known since primary school, if not before. I think everyone really loved her in that ‘new toy’ way but remained very close to her. However, after a while I was getting a bit tired of her (which I kept strictly to myself), especially because she is going out with my crush of 2 years, yet constantly flirts with my best male friend and talks about me behind my back. It was really starting to irk me so I decided to spend a little time with another group; I didn’t want to start any animosity towards this girl seeing as I thought I was just being jealous. Lo and behold, my old friend group has completely turned it’s back on me and it feels like this ‘friend’ of mine has just replaced me in it.
I just feel so hurt because these people I’ve known for so long suddenly don’t care about me anymore, I don’t feel like I can trust anyone with my problems involving this friend because I don’t want to kick up trouble. My sister is BFFs with her and so I get a full news report on how her relationship is going with my crush, the fun things she and my (ex-)close friends do together. It seems the happier they are the unhappier I get. I’ve got a lot a friends, but none who I can confide in. Please help!”
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The best advice I can think of is to ignore her, ignore the rest of the group, and politely ask your twin sister to stop dishing out information about this girl’s interaction with them or your crush.
Other than that, it would be best that you find other friends, real friends, to hang out with. You’re suffering and tormenting yourself for no reason at all.
I totally understand why you don’t like this girl. And if she really is mean, and simply a bad person, they WILL notice. And if she isn’t then there’s really no reason for them to dislike her, if they don’t know that you’re crush is now her boyfriend. I really hope they don’t know that, specially your sister because then it would be very mean of her to tell you about their relationsship. If she doesn’t know, you have to tell her. She’ll probably understand. (I think).
This same thing is happening to me right now – it sucks