How To Deal With Being The Girl Everyone Hates

Being hated isn’t fun. I mean, it’s a pretty terrible thing when one person hates you. It’s even worse when everyone hates you. How are you supposed to deal with that?

I admit, it’s difficult not to stoop to their level and be mean or hate back. But don’t!

My best guy friend in the world (and I mean completely 100% romance-free) has dated a lot of girls, and they all hate me. They’ve even gone as far to tell him that he can’t speak to me. And every time I’m like “Seriously?!” Luckily, he defends our friendship knowing that girlfriends come and go, but friends are forever .

I’ve dealt with hatred from girls my whole life, whether there were guys involved or not. I have a really strong personality, and sometimes it rubs people the wrong way. Usually once people get to know me, they realize that I’m really nice.

Fortunately, I’ve never heard “I really hated you when we first met,” but I do hear “I was really intimidated by you.” In my head that’s almost worse because I don’t want people to be scared of me! But again, I have a big personality and it takes a lot to roll with that.

It’s never been something that I’ve let get me down though because I have plenty of friends who love me. If I didn’t have anyone then I would start to question what I was doing wrong. Some people have personalities that others can’t mesh with right away or at all. And that’s okay.

But how do you deal with being hated?

You should always take the high road. Don’t fire back at people who hate you and say mean things about you. They often want a reaction from you, and if you don’t give them one, that cuts them down. Also, just be nice.

In college, there were some girls in my sorority who said behind my back that they were scared of me. I took matters into my own hands and went out of my way to eat lunch with them and made sure they saw that I’m actually really nice and friendly. Now, they’re some of my best friends.

When it comes to girls that don’t like me because I’m friends with their boyfriend, that’s a different story. I usually leave that between the couple because more often than not, it’s about a trust issue between the two of them.

Truth be told, not everyone is going to like you. And you’re not going to like everyone. We don’t all get along.

But if you’re a good person, that’s going to reflect even if there are some people that don’t like you. It’s hard when people don’t, but the question you always have to ask is “Am I happy with myself?” As long as I’m happy with myself and how I act, that’s what matters.

How do you handle it when someone hates you? Have you ever confronted someone about it? Tell me in the comments!

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  • guest

    I guess I agree with your article, however, I don’t agree with being nice to them. I’m in a CVT program at my school, and it’s all females, and they all hate me. Three of them are really the showrunners, but the rest of them are kinda like sheep following along. I’m not going to try and be nice, just for the sake of fitting in with them. If they aren’t secure enough with themselves to be around me, then that’s their problem.

  • Katie

    Wow, thats what I’m EXACTLY going through right now. My friend told me that a girl hates me because I’m best friends with her crush.(best guy friend) I even said “Haters gonna hate!”