Saying goodbye can be really, really hard. I’m not talking about saying goodbye to a friend after an awesome hangout sesh or to a boyfriend when he’s going on vacation for a week. I’m talking about the tough goodbyes, like when you end a relationship or when someone moves away. Figuring out how to say goodbye to someone you really cared about is never fun and so sometimes, we avoid it as much as possible.
But the truth is, you should learn how to say goodbye to any kind of situation or person, no matter how hard it may be. Getting closure is an important part of getting over something and moving on. So how exactly do you do it?
We’ve got advice, in the form of one of our favorite inspirational ladies ever, Amy Poehler. Amy did yet another amazing Ask Amy video and during this one, she’s giving advice on how to say goodbye. This particular video might get a little sappy and corny (there’s a part where she compares life to “a string of peals that make up the necklace of your life”), but her advice is still awesome, as usual.
There are a lot of things I love about this video, but these lines may just be my favorite: “Goodbyes are temporary because no one ever really leaves and nothing lasts forever. And if you can remember those two things, that people are always with us because they’re in our hearts and in our memory; and the only thing we can depend on is change.” So true!
Amy stresses how important it is to pay tribute to the people or places you’re leaving. Like I said before, closing ties with something or someone can really help you get over whatever it is you’re leaving. Disappearing without properly mourning what you’re leaving is going to leave you feeling like things are unfinished.
I also like that Amy points out that saying goodbye and change in general is just a part of life that we can’t avoid. As much as we would all like some things to go on forever, most things do come to an end. It’s important to keep that in mind and to know that those changes are just opening us up to new experiences in life. How wise is she?!
Watch the video and get more of her advice right here. Also, bonus: at the end, you spot one of her adorable little kids.
Keep this advice in mind the next time you need to say goodbye to someone or something. I think it’ll help you out a lot.
So what do you girls think? Are you going to follow her advice? Who was the last person you had to say goodbye to? Or the last situation or place? How did you do it? How do you feel about goodbyes? Tell us in the comments.