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Big changes afoot, girls! Since I’m coupled up (aka boring), I’ve decided to focus on giving you darlings love advice rather than prattling on about my own (boring) love life! If you didn’t know, I post romance advice vids to my YouTube page so I thought hey, why not share it with my favorite girls?! But beware–I don’t sugarcoat things. We all have friends who just tell you what you want to hear–I’m not that friend. I’m the one who’s going to be honest and help you make the best decisions possible. It may not always be pretty, but it WILL be the truth!
This week, let’s kick things off with this question…
Dear Shallon,
I like this guy who is moving very far away. He knows I like him but hasn’t said anything about it – he’s just ignores the subject. We talked last night and he didn’t say anything about it. I even brought him cookies for his birthday. He is moving at the end of the summer and he is 15 and I’m 14 we are both in 9th grade. What should I do? Should I just leave it be?
Please help!!
–Emma
My Baking Beauty Emma,
The best guy advice I’ve ever received came courtesy of my dude friend, Matt, who explained that contrary to our belief, there is no such thing as “the shy guy.”
“If a guy knows you’re into him, it doesn’t matter how “shy” he is – if he’s into you, he’s going for it. Plain and simple,” he stated. “This whole ‘Oh he’s just bashful’ thing that girls tell themselves is BALONEY. It’s basically this ghost story that works against you and keeps you hanging on to a guy that needs to be cut loose.”
SHY IS A LIE!
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I think you know where I’m going with this – your crush isn’t into you. I know, this is terrible, hurtful news, but I want you to walk in the light of the truth and not waste your time chasing someone who isn’t giving anything back to you. From what you say, he’s had PLENTY of opportunities to go for it and make a move and if he hasn’t, then either he just doesn’t want to or he’s too much of a wuss. Whatever the case, you’re better off using your energy – and baking talents – on someone who is going to pamper you, too!
And while it might be tempting to keep in touch with him after he moves, really, what’s the point? Guys are very much “out of sight, out of mind” creatures – if he hasn’t fallen for you by now (which is ridiculous – you’re amazing, I can just tell!), he probably won’t when he leaves town.
So here’s what you do: use this guy kind of a practice crush. If you’re looking to brush up on your in-person flirting skills, make him your guinea pig. Or if you (like me) have a hard time being “just friends” with guys, chat him up on a totally platonic level. What’s the worst that could happen? He’s leaving soon so any embarrassing gaffes you may make will get packed up and shipped out right along with him.
Dating and dealing with guys is just like anything else – you have to practice to be good at it. Ditto with baking, but it sounds like you’ve got that one down! 
Feel free to leave your love Qs in the comments or drop me an email to AskShallon@gmail.com and follow me on Twitter and Instagram @ShallonXO
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Would You Rather?
There is a boy in my grade I have been texting for a few months. He originally liked one of my friends, but he told me he doesn’t anymore. I really like him. We text all the time, and it’s 50/50 between who starts the conversations. He’s usually the last person I’m texting before I go to bed. He’s so nice to me and funny and interesting. And interested in me. But we don’t talk at school! I’ve said maybe 25 words to him in person. Whenever I see him I can’t even look at him, much less say anything! He might like me, he might not. I told him I had to go to bed to get up early for a meeting at school that he had never attended and I had been going to the whole year. He showed up that morning at the meeting. I couldn’t even say anything! Help me. I want him to like me, but I don’t know how to ask or what to say, or even how to talk!
Hey! So I like this help-ish-thing, and it is kinda like my situation. I am 14, he is 15, but the thing is, we are dating (About 10 months?). And he is moving to Germany at the end of the summer (from the USA) :/ So what do I do?
Hey Emily!
Long distance romances are hard and sucky, no matter how old you are. But they’re especially awful when you’re so young and have SO much life to live! I say, keep in touch with him if you want, but also keep your options open. Go to dances, flirt with boys, go on dates and see where life takes you. The worst thing would be to look back at your high school years and realize you spent it glued to your Facebook messaging him and missed out on so many amazing experiences.
If you two are meant to be, you won’t lose touch. Besides, German girls aren’t nearly hot as American chickadees
xoxo,
shallon