Mixed signals are no fun, and they certainly aren’t easy to deal with. I mean, things would just be so much less complicated if everyone were upfront about what they wanted, right? The answer is yes.

I’m currently dealing with a dude who’s giving mixed signals, and it’s just a pain! This week, y’all are talking about what to do if he kissed you but now he won’t talk to you. What gives?! This goes for any kind of hook up and ditch move. It’s not cool, and it can be very unsettling.

Do you confront him? Should you let it go? It’s all sorts of confusing.

What did y’all have to say about the topic?

MUNgirl said:

Yes! Definitely!

It’s not worth making a scene over, but I think you should calmly interrogate him. You may then proceed to scold him for leading you on if you get a reaction different than what you wanted. Just pull him to the side and confront him when no one’s looking. He owes you an explanation at the very least. It’ll work out! Best of luck!

mandakim said:

Yes, you do have the right to be peed off. He at least owes you an explanation as to why his attitude towards you has changed so much. Try talking to him quietly and ask what’s going on because he’s confusing you.

Ramroom12cat said:

Oh that’s a jerk move. You should go up to him and simply ask “I believe the other day our lips met, some people call that a kiss. So how about you quit acting like it never happened and talk to me?” Personally I would say that.

Yeah, the general consensus is to confront, and I agree. In my personal experience, it’s best to do this in person or with a phone call because text-confrontations NEVER work in your favor. You can’t convey tone, and it’s too impersonal.

I’ve actually had this situation happen to me. It turns out this guy wasn’t over his ex when we kissed. But instead of just being honest and talking to me about it, he totally blew me off and ignored me. So I was over here like “Ummm what’s going on, you just kissed me!” and found out on Facebook like a week later that he got back together with his ex. It was really fun, you guys.

Honestly, there’s no rhyme or reason why guys do things like this. And girls do it too! I know a lot of girls that will kiss a guy just to see if he’ll kiss her back and then never talk to him again. So not okay.

Really, communication is key here. If you’re feeling confused and want an explanation, then you have to ask for one because he won’t give it to you on his own. Confrontation sucks, but it’s the only way you’re going to get an answer.

Have you ever been kissed and then ignored? What did you do about it? Tell me in the comments!

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