Everyone Makes Fun Of Me Because I Don’t Have A Boyfriend!

Hi Heather,

This probably sounds silly, but my friends and family always tease me about not having a boyfriend. I’ve tried telling them I’m not ready and I don’t want one right now. I’m only 16-years-old and I want to be free and chase after my dreams. I am just not ready for what they see as normal: meet a guy, fall in love, get married. It seems like no one understands me. Please give me some advice!

Hey – for what it’s worth, I think it’s great that you don’t want a boyfriend right now. A lot of people get caught up in wanting a relationship so much that they can’t focus on the great things about being single and on your own: getting to do what you want. There’s nothing wrong with wanting to be single and it’s definitely not cool that everyone is making you feel bad about it.

Before you flip out, consider the fact that your friends and family may not realize how much this is bothering you. The next time one of them says something, don’t be afraid to stand up for yourself and say something like, “Can you stop? This is really bothering me.” Let everyone know that you’re happy being single and you don’t plan on changing that anytime soon. The more firm you are and confident you are in your decision, the more they’ll back off.

At the same time, you can’t control everyone. If they want to make fun of you for not wanting a boyfriend, you may not be able to stop them. In that case, do your best to ignore their annoying remarks. If a few of your friends are really bothering you about it, maybe stop hanging out with them so much – if they see you’re really angry, they might back off. In fact, it may help if you get really angry once or twice – that might help get your point across. I’m not saying you have to scream at everyone, but letting your friends and family know how annoyed they’re making you might help.

As for your dating life, don’t ever let anyone pressure you into having a boyfriend. It sounds like you’re pretty set on what you want, which is good, but remember to continue to do what you want. Sometimes, people are going to think what they want regardless of how you feel. You need to learn to ignore those people and continue to do what makes you happy. It’s your life, not theirs!

take care,
Heather

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  • Megan

    its okay being single. you should be proud . I know I am .

  • Jardiie

    Phew, I am glad! I thought I was the only one who’s having trouble with that. I am also 16 year old gal who do anything for studies, not being into a relationship. I have suitors, though, but I don’t mind them at all. If spicing my life with romance would be a question, I’ll wait for a right person for the right time.

  • random

    You can’t rush these things. Sure people date every so often but wouldn’t it be better if you actually feel an attraction to someone? I don’t have a boyfriend for the same reason as you and I totally get what you have to put up with (questions from family & friends) but the thing is I wouldn’t mind dating or having a boyfriend if I felt an attraction to someone. I am pretty sure you wouldn’t mind either if something presented itself. You can’t rush these things. It usually comes when you least expect it.

  • 4evrmileyfan13

    It’s ok. I’m 14 and girls at school tell me there’s something wrong with me just bcuz I don’t have a bf. I want to wait until high school, and I just want u 2 kno ur NOT ALONE on this.