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It’s cool to hang with pals after a breakup like Selena Gomez did, but not so cool to publicly bash your ex. | Source: YouTube
After a breakup, it’s normal to want to hang out with your girls and vent over everything that happened. Selena Gomez has been bonding with her besties since her split with Justin Bieber, and we’re all about that sort of girl bonding. But when you vent to your pals after a breakup, it should never be made public by you or anyone else–and unfortunately, Selena Gomez did just that.
Selena and her pals choreographed a dance to a really crappy song called “Everybody Knows’” by Dustin Tavella, which is basically Ginuwine’s “Pony” made into a crappy breakup song. The lyrics contain some really profound stuff like “Your boyfriend is a douchebag / And everybody knows.”
In any case, Selena actually mimics the motions of smoking weed (something Justin Bieber was infamously snapped doing) and released the video after he had a really tough week–he was even in the hospital. The video was timed pretty suspiciously, just like the one she made to Taylor Swift‘s song “I Knew You Were Trouble” was. (Speaking of Taylor Swift, it sounds like she and Selena are really rubbing off on one another, and not necessarily in a good way.) Here’s the video:
After a breakup, we know it’s tempting to make your ex look like a douchebag, because chances are, if he hurt you, he probably is a douchebag. But it’s better to let the truth come out on its own than to put the guy on blast, because all it does is make people speculate on and talk about your former relationship. When your ex is thrown in your face constantly after a breakup, that makes it a lot harder for either of you to move on to anything or anyone better.
Something else that makes it hard to find anyone new after a breakup? Looking bitter. And that’s what smack-talking your ex does. It scares a lot of potentially good guys off because even if you’re super hot, really charming and friendly to his face, he’s secretly going to worry about what you’re going to do if and when you split up, and he may decide you’re not worth the drama.
The best way to move on after a breakup? Keep it classy. This means no vague, rude Facebook or Twitter updates about your ex, no passive aggressive YouTube videos, no public declarations of douchebaggery. If you need to get those feelings out–and they may well be valid feelings!–talk to your BFF in private or keep a diary. Anything public or that spreads will come back to bite you in your cute behind. And who needs that?
Do you think Selena Gomez is making fun of Justin Bieber in this video? How do you deal after a breakup? Have you ever badmouthed an ex after a breakup? Has an ex every badmouthed you after a breakup? Tell us in the comments!
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I understand about this whole “she shouldn’t have publicised it”, which is true for most break ups, but she’s the exception, not the rule.
The whole relationship was very public, and so was the break up. It’s only natural for her to show her grievance publicly.
Although I don’t condone this behaviour, I do believe it makes sense. I mean, if you break up with someone, you’re typically gonna tell everyone how much of a jerk he was right? She done that.. it’s just her way was (obviously) going to be more public. She’s in the spotlight a hell of a lot after all.
I think we should cut her some slack.
Also, on the plus side, she done it in a really creative way!
I’m pretty sure we all knew Justin Bieber is a douche bag before this video…
very true
#Caelaluv I totally get what your saying dance is a way to express yourself and relieve stress but she shouldn’t have publicised it maybe kept it to herself and her friends and looked at it every so often to make herself feel better but Now she has posted it on youtube it becomes a whole different thing and she looses the moral high ground ( she’s then just as bad as Taylor swift and Justin beiber). Yeah it was a pretty bad break up but she didn’t have to make it for the world to see
This is how I see it: if this is how she copes with a break up then that’s how she copes with a break up. It’s not mean spirited because she wants to have fun and get over her ex just like everyone else. Dance has been a way of releasing stress for years and it’s not immature. How is it any different than Taylor Swift, who doesn’t mind naming the guys who break her heart? I mean, dance is expression. It wasn’t meant to be mean spirited; it was meant to be therapeutic.
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It’s pretty obvious she is mocking Justin in this video but considering how bad their break-up was, I’m not surprised. After a break-up it can be hard, and you do tend to lash out. I had a nasty one where not only was the break-up done on Facebook, but my ex bfs friends started making horrible comments about me on my pictures and page. I started doing the same towards them and looking back now I regret it. It’s really immature and EVERYONE saw all those horrible comments we made to each other. Not only is it rude it’s also embarrassing. My advice is to first delete them from every social media site you had them on. Then when you feel the urge to lash out at them, take a time out and look at how it will effect the situation. It might feel good in that moment but later you realize how immature it is. More often then not your ex is out there living their lives and if you really want to get back at them, live yours and be happy. You’ll soon forget the loser and move on to better things in life.