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Earlier this week, we specifically shared things women wished they knew before having sex, but a lot of the time the comment sections are full of conversation about losing your virginity.
Whether you’re thinking about doing it or have already done it, the comments are full of advice, thoughts and personal stories related to the topic of virginity.
We’ve gone ahead and dug up a sample of some of the things that you all have shared with us and each other related to having sex for the first time. Have a look!
From “I Have Terrible Anxiety About Sex”
From “My First Time Having Perfect Sex”
From “From The Boards: Do Girls Really Get Attached To The Person They Lose Their Virginity To?”
From “Does Your First Time Having Sex Set The Tone For The Rest Of Your Sex Life?”
From “What Is Virginity?”
From “From The Boards: How Young Is Too Young To Lose Your Virginity?”
From “Reader Hookup Confession: I Planned On Waiting Until Marriage But…”
From “Confession: Waiting Until Your Ready”
From “My First Time Having Sex”
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my say on this would i lost my virginity at the age of 15 with my bf of that time. Like how people say itz usually painful when you loose your virginity and i would also agree with that it was indeed every painful for me “down there” when my bf inserted his body into my body but truely speaking i enjoyed every ounce of that pain. It was such a beautiful feeling and that pain in my pussy made me feel like sexy. I would losing your virginity is awesome and every girl should experience it
I don’t regret anything about my first time. It was with my first love and every bit of it was romantic. He was so thoughtful and so caring. What hurts the most is that we don’t speak to each other now. And I think about him like crazy..
Honestly, I think everyone has different comfort levels when it come to losing their virginity, and there are so many possible influencing factors. Religion, morality, family, friends, school, biology, psychology, and personal history all play a part. Most of my friends are strictly religious, and that’s their primary reason for waiting. I attend a school in which it’s almost unacceptable to be a virgin, and that influences a lot of people. There are also a lot of people who have more than just the obvious doubts and anxieties that come with something like that. I fall into that group. My parents were always very open and honest with me about sex, but I had some bad experiences with guys early on that severely altered my personal comfort level to the point at which I have a debilitating fear of physical and emotional intimacy, which I know isn’t healthy. There’s no way I could handle it psychologically. I’m easily capable of fantasies, but the idea of actually following through with something like that literally nearly causes me to vomit. Then there are people on the other end of the spectrum who were probably a little too comfortable with it, and rushed into something they may very well come to regret, at an age at which a person isn’t really mature enough to deal with the possible consequences. In the end, it should probably come down to a combination of what on wants, and what is sensible. A person should not only be comfortable with the decision in the moment, but have really thought it through to increase the odds that they’ll be comfortable with the decision later on.
I agree with Artemis. There will always be bad decisions and good decisions. The result of this is experience. Life is full of these experiences. Sex is again one of those experiences. If you say that you dont want to have sex because you might regret your decision, I tend to disagree. Whether one has made a good or bad decision is only obvious after the act is done. You can never know if that decision is going to be right or wrong. What we tend to do is console ourselves that we made the “right” decision NOT to have sex.
On the other hand that sexual act might have been the best experience you will have ever had.
I think if we want to have sex we should not worry about future regrets. I would suggest we just make sure we take precautions against STDs and pregnancy, and if we want to have sex with the guy we have chosen, then to go for it.
I am amazed that sex is seen as something bad. It is actually an awesome feeling
I have dumped two of my bf because they wanted sex by all means. I got another bf whom i love so much. He is loving, caring and so decipline, i got him when i am 15 and now i am 17plus, he has started demanding for sex, i am a virgin and i am so scared of loosing him what will i do?
Hey i know im young but i know what your going through. I think that you should wait until your ready,because if you dont youll probly regret it. Also if the guy really loves you he will respect your wishes and wait,but if not hes not worth your time. Lastly your 17 years old you have your whole life ahead of you dont try to rush into things.
If he loves you he should wait,your still young and you don’t want to do something and regret it after,don’t just do it out of pressure do it when your married are with someone that respects you well enough to wait
i lost my virginity when i was 14 and i wasint ready i regreut it cause i got pragnet on my first time and ever since then im worried it might happen again
I lost mine and im cool with it and my old bf I lost it with said he wanted to it again even though we broke up I dumped him
I lost mine 3 weeks before I turned 15, it honestly is the one thing I regret the most in my life..It’s better to wait.
What ever happened to wait till marriage?
I think that girls should only have to wait until marriage if they want to wait until then but if they do not wait there’s nothing wrong with that.
I lost my virginity in December of 2012 at 14 to a much much much older guy. I don’t exactly regret it, but sometimes I do wish I would have waited a little longer! We still keep in touch though, and he really is a great guy. But you can’t change the past, so what’s the use in regretting anything? If you’ve already lost your virginity and you regret it, my advice is to just tell yourself “Hey, I made a mistake, and that’s okay. What can I learn from it?” A person who really loves you won’t care if you’re a virgin or not. Keep fighting to find your prince charming that you deserve! (:
Melina, just because you have doubts doesnt mean you are NOT ready. Doubts will always exist whether its your first time and whenever you have a new partner.
If a girl wants to wait then so be it. But wait for the right reasons. Many of my friends have waited and are wondering why they ever waited. Some will be scared to make that step to do it. Others may not. The reasons are varied and just because there is a doubt of some kind doesnt mean they are not ready.
Nature has designed us to have sex when we start our periods. Sex is a physical need in us.. a function that nature has provided to be able to continue our species. Morals, religion etc should not influence our natural desire to mate.
It might be inconvenient to fall pregnant because it will affect our schooling. Also there is the worry about STDs if the guy has had many partners before.
I didnt wait and I have no regrets. I lost mine in the back of a car at a party. I wouldnt have been able to do it anywhere else because I was so young.I am 14 now. This happened 2 years ago. We quietly slipped out when it was dark and the deed was done..lol. Was I ready? I dont know but it felt great!
Hey! I lost my virginity last year (March 2012). I was 19 and a sophomore and college. The guy I lost it too also was 19, sophomore, and a close friend of mine. However, he got me with the “Oh, I been waiting since we were freshmen to take your virginity.” “Oh, If you let me put it in and take it out real quick, Its not really sex, its experimenting. Therefore, you’ll still be a virgin.” So naive back then, lol.I don’t regret losing it to him at all but I regret losing it at that time. My advice gURLS? Ask questions before you do it.
i really think girls should wait till they are ready cause if you have doubts then that means you are not ready
i strongly agree!!!