I just read an interview Taylor Swift had with Vanity Fair and I couldn’t help but feel extremely confused over something she said. When asked about her dating life while sipping on lavender lemonade (because of course she was asked about her dating life while she was sipping on lavender lemonade), Tay-Tay said, “If you want some big revelation, since 2010 I have dated exactly two people.”
Um, girl… we all know there’s been more than two people. According to Vanity Fair, those two people she was talking about were Conor Kennedy and Harry Styles. I’m sorry, did we forget about Taylor Lautner, Joe Jonas, John Mayer, Cory Monteith and Jake Gyllenhaal (and those I forgot about)? Because, Taylor, you’ve been linked to all of those dudes since 2010.
Hold on a sec: please don’t jump down my throat because you think I’m making fun of Taylor for the amount of guys she’s dated – I’m not. I don’t care how many guys Taylor dates and neither should anyone else. If she wants to date 20 guys in one year, she can. Go for it. More power to ‘ya. I’m not her biggest fan, but I’m not trying to slut-shame her here. There’s nothing wrong with a girl who dates around.
Here’s why I was left so confused: what is dating to Taylor Swift? The article immediately made all of us here at the Gurl office wonder what dating means to Tay-Tay herself… and actually, what does dating even mean to any of us?
Is dating a term that is only reserved for more serious relationships? Or is dating a term reserved for only very casual relationships? Is dating the same thing as hooking up? Is it considered dating if you guys only kiss? Is going out on one or two dates considered dating? What is dating?! Someone help me!
After asking anyone who would listen to me, I’ve come to the conclusion that dating means different things to different people. For me, dating means getting to know someone, going out a few times, talking a lot and hooking up. In my opinion, dating can be a little more casual or more serious. For me, I don’t have to call a dude my official boyfriend in order to say that I “dated” him – and Gurl writer Caitlin is on the same page as me. She thinks that dating can be about a casual relationship or it can be about a more serious one.
My boyfriend, however, feels differently. He says that dating means being officially a couple for a decent amount of time – boyfriend/girlfriend labels, Facebook relationship statuses, dinner with the parents… all that stuff. He says that anything less than that is hooking up or “talking.”
On the other hand, Gurl writer Meg thinks dating is more casual and doesn’t refer to long-term relationships. She thinks of dating as something that’s not very serious – just hooking up and hanging out – but would never say she’s “dating” her long-term boyfriend.
Obviously, we all have different meanings of the word dating. But wouldn’t it make life so much easier if there was just one universal definition?!
What does dating mean to you? Do you think it’s more serious or casual or both? Tell me in the comments.