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But the things my mom taught me about sex and relationships are probably the most important.
One thing that I really love about my mom is how honest and open she is with me. Especially about sex. My mom never avoided the topic. She has always given me great advice when it comes to sexy time. Relax, it’s not like she’s sharing sex tips with me or anything!
But she’s always been there for me to help me navigate the complications that come with sex and the stigmas surrounding a subject that so many people don’t want to discuss. If I sleep with someone, my mom is usually the first person I call to tell.
One of the most important things my mom did for me is convince me that I wasn’t a slut.
Ugh I cringe just typing that word. Let me go on the record as saying I hate that term and would never call another girl (or guy!) a slut, no matter what their sexual decisions are. Slut-shaming is always wrong, but that’s the word that kept popping into my head when I thought about myself until I talked to my mom.
I was always in a relationship. That was my thing until last year. Life really changed for me after my last breakup, and I started worrying about what it meant if I was sleeping with someone who wasn’t my boyfriend. I had friends who did, and I never thought anything of it. But when it was me, that was a different story.
I felt weird about being single and hooking up with guys I wasn’t dating. I felt like a slut. While my friends easily told me I wasn’t, I knew I had to talk to my mom. I remember asking her if I was being slutty, and she just laughed.
She straight up said “No,” and told me that hooking up or sleeping with guys as a single girl was my decision. As long as it was up to me and it was what I wanted to do, then I wasn’t a slut. She even encouraged me because I had been tied down for so long and never took time to be single. She reminded me that sex was my business and that no one has a right to judge me except for me.
So Mom, I know you’re reading, thank you for always making me feel special and that the decisions I make for me are the right ones.
Do you talk to your parents about sex? Have they ever given you sex advice? Are you scared to talk to them? Tell me in the comments!
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I think is true that if you want to stand for yourself in life you have to think by yourself and stick to your personal views of the world, that’s something you can change. But, there is a fact I think you mom didn’t tell you, that you are not alone in this world, and we live in society, and that imposes us certain constraints about our way of living, because we are evaluated by others and you can’t change that fact as it doesn’t depends on you. These rules evolve of course but we can’t deny that they permit and prohibit us to do whatever in life. If you sleep with random people just for pleasure, according with society (25 April 2013) yeah you’re a slut without doubt. But, of course I’m against this Madonna-whore view of the world in which a woman can be just a slut or a nun. But I think a more evolved way of thinking will be imposed far away in the future, not now.
U guys it is none of your bussnes I am still a virgin but still when I decied to have sex it will be my bussnies and not any ones anyway she in my view is not a slut! And I think having pritected sex is safe its her bussnies so excuse my lang but f*ck of
SO BASICALLY youre not a slut unless you get abused sexually.
SO BASICALLY you take every little comment out of context.
Lol I agrer with the other comments. This is the definition of a slut. When a person isnt a slut they dont even care when people say it.
Then I don’t understand what did you mean with “hooking up with guys I wasn’t dating”. Guess just doing date-stuff but not-actually-dating or something like that?
Anyway, if semeone does want to do that, sure it’s their decision, they have the right to do it if they want to do it.. but I do have the right to judge it and call it slut if I so desire. If a girt behaves just like a dictionary describes slut behaviour then she shouldn’t feel surprised if people call it by how the dictionary defines it. Said person can just don’t care about what I think and go on with her life, but can’t keep me from my free speech.
Um, how would you feel if people called you a slut because they are way too concerned with your sex life instead if their’s? What if they said in their defense ‘free speech!’ I swear, religious fanatics are some of the biggest idiots I’ve ever met.
…. religious fanatic?
Anyway, how would I feel if I am a slut (or behave as the defines) and semeone calls me slut? I guess the same way the red color feels when semeone calls it red? People are just pointing out the thruth about myself.
However, if I am a slut and feel offended if others calls me that then it probably means that I deep in me I do consider that I’m doing something bad, perhaps I should change so others don’t have a truth to point out anymore.
In short, easiest way to avoid being called a slut is to not be a slut. If you acknowledge that you are one then change or deal with its social implications.
Sorry to break your naïve bubble but having sex with random persons just for the sake of pleasure is the dictionary definition of being a slut.
It’s a bad thing and you shouldn’t do it, let alone encouraging others to do it, but it is your decision to stop with such behaviour, acknowledge that you did wrong, don’t do it again and speak to others about how wrong it is, then you’ll be fine and forgiven.
I never said I was “having sex with random persons just for the sake of pleasure.” And if someone does want to do that, it’s their decision.
Like I said, my sex life is mine. It’s no one’s place to judge me for it.