Chances are if you dish about your crush or your boyfriend with your pals, he’s got a nickname of some sort, whether he knows about it or not. I’m totally guilty of the nickname phenomenon: “Cute DJ,” “Chuck Taylors,” “Hazza,” “Captain Awkward,” “Hot Drummer,” “The Hot Pilot,” “The Other Hot Pilot.” (Don’t judge me, okay?)
We pretty much accepted giving nicknames to guys we like as something we just do–human nature, if you will. But it turns out, giving a nickname to your crush or your boyfriend may indicate you’re actually not that attached to them yet, and that you may be using it as a tool to keep your distance emotionally. Wait, what?
A love expert thinks that nicknaming is because of the way we date now, since it’s a lot different from how our parents went about finding love.
“We’re dating lots and lots of people, never before in our history have we had the insight … and access to so many individuals. And that’s new in the history of our species,” she explained. (So scientific sounding, right?) ”And I think, that along with that, comes the phenomenon of short-term dating. Prior to this era, when you met somebody, and you really were travelling in smaller circles and because just the mileage that we covered was smaller, we’d have the opportunity to check them out–you went through that initial screening process before you had a date.”
Basically, the hookup culture we’re used to–and our lower expectations as a result of it–make us come up with nicknames for dudes we’re into. The thinking behind it is, we’ll be a lot less bummed if, say, “Cute DJ” doesn’t pan out than if “Nick” leaves us high and dry and, you know, stands us up. (His nickname is now “Douchebag.”)
Think of it this way: I really, really love chicken nuggets. But if I had a pet chicken with a name, I wouldn’t want to eat it, because I mean, it has a name, and that would be messed up. But if it’s just, you know, chicken? Somehow, it becomes no biggie.
Of course, it’s not always so serious. A big part of why I tend to nickname the guys I like is because they always seem to have the same names (most often Dave, Mike or Dan), so it’s just easier for my friends to keep track without confusing a promising new prospect with a shady, douchey ex.
Other times you may be around mutual pals of your crush or your boyfriend and don’t want them knowing who you’re talking about. And other times it’s just more fun to be like, “That Adorable Australian Streaker” than, well, “Tim.”
Have you ever given a nickname to your crush or your boyfriend? Do you and your friends refer to your boyfriend or crush as a nickname instead of his actual name? Why do you nickname guys? What’s your best nickname for your crush or your boyfriend? How do you think your crush or your boyfriend would react if he knew his nickname? Tell us in the comments!