Quick confession time: when I was in high school, I had a pretty big crush on one of my teachers. He was very young, very cute and very friendly. He was in charge of supervising my lunch period and my friends and I sat with him and two other teachers every day. We all talked, laughed, bought each other snacks – we considered them our friends. I, of course, considered Mr. R to be my imaginary boyfriend. Nothing ever came close to happening between us except for the fact that I was crushing hard.
I’m sure you can name a teacher you think is a total cutie as well. Having a teacher crush is super common. After all, you spend every day with them… and if the teacher in question is cute, funny and wonderful, how are you supposed to not have a crush?!
But here’s the thing: having a teacher crush can also be pretty dangerous. Hey, we can’t all be as lucky as Aria from Pretty Little Liars and snag hot teachers like Mr. Fitz like it’s no biggie. It’s totally fine to crush on your teacher, but acting on that crush? Not totally fine. I know how hard it can be to restrain yourself, so I’m here to help. Here are a few ways to deal with having a crush on your teacher:
Accept ItSo, you have a crush on a teacher - acknowledge it, accept it, embrace it. Crushes happen and they can happen on anyone, from someone your age to your cute doctor to your fave celebrity. Having a crush is no big deal and you shouldn't feel super embarrassed about it. Plus, crushes can be fun if you don't take them too seriously! Source: ShutterStock
Be RealisticWhile it's completely fine to crush on your teacher, things will get tricky if you start to think something could really happen. It's important to be realistic here. Remember that doing anything inappropriate with your teacher can get him in serious trouble. He could lose his job and even possibly get arrested. I know you don't want to be the source of all these problems. Remember that as long as this dude is teaching you in front of a classroom, nothing, and I mean nothing, can happen between you guys. Source: ShutterStock
No Flirting!Keeping all of that in mind, don't start flirting with your teacher. I know that a few comments here and there may seem innocent and harmless, but if another teacher or student catches on, it won't seem so innocent. Having friendly conversations is totally fine, but don't take it any further then that. Source: ShutterStock
Don't Be Alone With HimAs tempting as it may be to ask for some one-on-one extra help time to get closer to your teacher with no one else around, don't do it... especially if he gets a little flirty with you sometimes. Don't encourage him and don't put him in an uncomfortable position either. Sorry to be the one to say this, but seducing a teacher is not okay. Also not okay? Him seducing you. If he tries to do that, back off so he gets the hint. Source: ShutterStock
Try Not To ObsessLike I said before, be realistic. Don't let this crush consume you and don't let it be super obvious, because you don't want to encourage anything inappropriate. It's fine to daydream about your teacher sometimes, but if it gets to a point where you feel like you're seriously falling for him, you need to put an end to the crush ASAP. Source: ShutterStock
Don't Tell A Lot Of PeopleSometimes when we have a crush, we can't help ourselves from gushing about that person to anyone who will listen. But you might not want to do that with this particular kind of crush. High school and gossip go hand-in-hand and I'm sure you don't want to be the center of false rumors. Also, you may start to feel super embarrassed showing up to class if the object of your affection finds out about your crush. Source: ShutterStock
Find Someone Your AgeWhat is it that you like about your teacher? Do you like him because he's really funny? Is it because he's very sweet and understanding? Or do you just like his style and looks? Whatever it is, try to find that same quality in a dude closer to your age who won't get arrested for dating you. Finding a new crush will help you get over your teacher crush. Source: ShutterStock
Do you have a crush on a teacher right now? Have you ever had a crush on a teacher? How did/do you deal with it? Tell me in the comments.