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And he wasn’t just unhappy about losing. He was unhappy about losing to girls.
Like so unhappy that he didn’t want to talk about it. I didn’t really know what to say other than “I’m sorry,” because well, I’m a girl. If their team got crushed by another team of dudes, it would have been much easier to cheer him up.
But I was kind of happy that they got beat by girls because I love it when I beat guys at stuff. I wanted to high five the girls that won!
I got a little bothered that he was so upfront with me that he was getting beat by chicks and was mad about it. And I have a feeling that if he got beat by guys, it wouldn’t have been as big of a deal.
And I don’t want to generalize here, but I’m totally going to. Almost every dude I’ve ever interacted with would have been bummed to be beaten by girls. And they wouldn’t have been embarrassed that they were bummed for completely sexist reasons. They’d be open about it, like the guy I’m dating.
I think that’s so weird. I feel like people normally jump through hoops to be politically correct, especially in front of anyone they could offend. For example, one of my friends used to use the “f” word a lot, but then he became friends with a gay guy, realized that really offended him and made a huge effort to stop dropping “f” bombs.
So why are guys openly sexist in front of women? I’m not quite sure. I have to wonder if it’s a dominance thing? I don’t think my guy was trying to offend me in any way, but he didn’t want to seem weak or less appealing. That’s just my psych 101 talking. I’m not expert here.
I didn’t want to get into a big thing about sexism with him so I just said I was sorry he lost and changed the subject. If it’s something that happens again though, I’m definitely going to speak up.
I mean, I don’t want him getting upset with me because I beat him at something, which I totally will if he goes bowling with me.
Why do you think guys get so upset when girls beat them at stuff? Do you think everyone’s a little bit sexist? Tell me in the comments!
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I think guys hate being shown that they’re less strong than a girl, who are generally less strong than men (I’m not being sexist here, it’s just that it’s probably true). It’s not sexist. They just don’t want to be proven as weak in front of other men.
I think it’s so dumb. My mom once told me to ‘tone it down’ a bit around guys because they don’t want to see that I might their equal when it comes to physical tasks, and it really surprised and upset me because I’d always though my mom was more feminist than that. She was worried that I would ‘scare guys away.’ Well… thankfully I’m not interested in dating guys, because I just can’t turn off my more competitive nature around them. I actually get more competitive with guys than girls. I hate having to ask a guy for help with any sort of physical task, because I don’t like to look like I need a man to assist me. I say guys just need to get the heck over it, because girls aren’t dainty little weaklings anymore.
I don’t really have anything to add to this…but k so here’s the story. You know that if you do the same motion over and over again the muscles in volved in doing that action are going to get strong right? Well I’ve been playing the piano for 11 years now so my hands and arms and shoulders are comparable to that of the stronger guys in my school. I’ve had the odd arm wrestle competition with those around me and its kind of an ego boost when you beat a guy at something physical…amirite?
Perhaps they have issues with it because being strong and physical is “masculin” and being beaten by a girl is a major drop in the “masculinity food chain” lol