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Sex can be great… until the times when it’s not so great. When you’re stuck in a hookup that just isn’t doing it for you, it can seem like there’s only one way out of there: faking an orgasm. You don’t want to hurt the dude’s feelings, you want the experience to be over with – sometimes, it feels like it just makes sense.
But here’s the thing: it’s not a good idea to fake an orgasm. I know it seems convenient and harmless and I guess if you’re only going to do it once with someone you never want to see again, it’s not the end of the world. But in general, it’s only going to do more harm than good. Tempted to take the easy way out? Then read these 7 reasons why you should never fake an orgasm:
You're Not Doing Yourself Any Favors
Obviously, faking an orgasm isn't really doing any good for you. All it's doing is preventing you from actually having an orgasm. If you feel like it's just not going to happen no matter what, tell the dude. Explain that it's nothing he's doing, you're just distracted/tired/stressed, whatever. Sex isn't going to work perfectly every time and that's okay. It's nothing to be ashamed of. Source: ShutterStockIt's Kind Of Mean
Let's turn the tables. Imagine you found out that the dude you've been hooking up with who you've been thinking you're seriously pleasing has been faking it most of the time. Ouch. Wouldn't that be a huge blow to your ego? Well, now think about how your guy would feel if he figured out you faked an orgasm. Pretty crappy. It's better to be honest then to lie, especially when it comes to sex stuff. Source: ShutterStockIt Might Cause A Bigger Issue
According to YourTango and Dr. Jane Greer, faking an orgasm can really mess up your head. Dr. Jane Greer says, "It really damages your sexual self-worth; eventually, you'll start to think that you can't have an orgasm, and you'll wind up feeling like something's wrong with you." I know you don't want that to happen. Although it might sound like a stretch, it's still possible, so it's best not to make faking it a habit. Source: ShutterStockYou Could Be Ruining Future Orgasms
Seriously, you're really not doing yourself any favors here. Faking one orgasm can lead to faking a lot of orgasms. If a guy thinks whatever he was doing felt that good, guess what? He's going to keep doing it. And then what are you going to do? Pretend it only felt that good that one time? Or fake more? It's an endless cycle, girls. Source: ShutterStockIt Could Be About Trust Issues
According to Self and Dr. Ian Kerner, faking it could mean something bigger than just trying to make a guy feel good: it could be a sign that you don't really trust him. Dr. Ian Kerner says, "That may be part of the reason that she's faking it. Not necessarily to hold on to her man, but because she doesn't trust him enough to really be able to let go and have an orgasm." If you feel like you're seriously having trouble orgasming, this could totally be true and it's definitely something to think about. Source: ShutterStockHelp Another Girl Out!
Okay, this may be really weird to think about, but try considering your fellow ladies. If you fake orgasms with this dude, he's going to go out there and do that same stuff to his next partner... and that sex might not be so great either. Look, I know it's weird, but think of it as doing a service to other women. I think they'll thank you later. Source: ShutterStockYou Deserve An Orgasm!
In the end, the main thing is this: you deserve a real orgasm, not a fake one. If what your guy is doing isn't working for you, have him try doing something else. You don't have to be like, "Oh man, that feels horrible." Just instruct him to do something you know feels good. You should never feel like you need to act like everything he does is amazing - you deserve to have good sex also! Source: ShutterStockHave you ever faked an orgasm? Do you do it a lot? Do you think it’s a big deal? Have you ever met a guy who faked it? Tell us in the comments.
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I agree with every thing mentioned! The more i faked it, the worse it got. I finally sat my boy down and had an honest heart to heart. Now he turns it up and turns me out every time we’re together(;