I recently read some research that states that most people in long-term relationships think about breaking up for a really long time before they actually go through with it. Eek. I have to admit, this kind of freaked me out. Who wants to date someone who’s secretly considering ending things? Um, no one, that’s who.
If you’re worried that your boyfriend (or girlfriend) may be feeling this way and is just unwilling to end the relationship, I’ve put together some things you should be looking out for. While I don’t want you girls getting crazy over this list (if one thing applies to your BF, please don’t assume it’s over), it’s important to realize that there are some tell-tale signs to watch for if you’re worried about your relationship ending. Take a look at these 8 signs that your boyfriend may want to break up with you. Then, please, talk to him.
He's Acting Super DistantIf your boyfriend suddenly has little to no time for you, this could be a major warning sign. Unless he's just gotten a new, time-consuming job or something like that, he could be purposely putting distance between you two. Try to look for a pattern. Are you the one who's always calling him? Has he stopped answering your phone calls or started ignoring your texts? Is he breaking plans at the last minute or just not making them altogether? If it happens once in a while, he could just be genuinely busy. If it happens a lot, on a regular basis, there could be something else going on. Source: ShutterStock
He's Been Keeping SecretsYour boyfriend should always be honest and open with you - after all, the key to a good relationship is honesty. If your BF has started keeping secrets from you and you've been catching him in a lot of lies, something could be up. Try to talk to him and ask him to be more honest with you. If he shows no interest in changing or continues to keep secrets after that, it could be a sign that he's ready for things to end. Source: ShutterStock
He Starts Fights Over EverythingFighting happens in every relationship. If you and your BF have been dating for a long time, it's natural to bicker over little things or have disagreements from time to time. It's not natural for your boyfriend to be picking fights over every little thing. Do you feel like you can never do anything right? Does he blame you for everything? Does he seem annoyed at everything you do? Ask yourself those questions - if the answer is an overwhelming yes, that's no good. Source: ShutterStock
He's Quiet About The FutureDudes who are happy in their relationships aren't scared to talk about the future. They're willing to make concert or vacation plans months in advance, they chat about things they want to do together next summer, stuff like that. But if they don't actually see a future for you two, they're probably not going to talk about it. Pay attention to his attitude when you talk about the future - if he gets weird, annoyed or distant and gives you wishy-washy answers, something's wrong. Source: ShutterStock
He's Not As Into Hooking UpThere comes a point in every long-term relationship where you stop hooking up as much as you did when you first started going out. That's fine and totally normal! But there should still be at least some passion happening. If your guy is never interested in getting frisky, it could mean something bad. Source: ShutterStock
He's Shady On FacebookSocial media can hold some serious clues for where your relationship is headed. Did your BF make this relationship status private for no reason whatsoever? Did he recently change his profile pic from one of you two to one of just him? Does he ignore your comments or chat up other girls more than he used to? Each of these things on their own may not mean much, but all of them at once? That's shady and not cool. Source: ShutterStock
He's Said It BeforeThis one may seem completely obvious, but just listen up: if you guys have gotten into some pretty big fights and your BF threatens to break up with you but then doesn't... that's not always good. Sure, sometimes it may just be something he says to be dramatic in the moment, but combined with these other signs, it could mean he's actually serious - he's just afraid to go through with it. If he threatens it or hints at it during a fight and then you two make up, pay attention to how he is afterwards. If he says he didn't mean it, it could be nothing. But if he still seems weird... it could mean a lot. Source: ShutterStock
Go With Your GutWhat do you think is going on? In these cases, it's usually best to listen to yourself and trust your gut. If you've had a strong feeling for a while now that your boyfriend might want to end things, you may not just be feeling paranoid. It's completely possible to pick up on subtle clues, so if your brain is screaming that something is wrong, listen up! If something feels really wrong, you need to talk to your boyfriend. Source: ShutterStock
Disclaimer: I don’t know your boyfriend. I don’t know if he wants to break up with you. The only way you’re ever going to know for sure if he wants to break up is if you talk to him about things honestly. Please don’t read this and automatically assume your boyfriend wants to end things.
Do any of these warning signs seem familiar to you? What would you do if you thought your boyfriend was going to break up with you? Tell me in the comments.