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I told my boyfriend that I needed some space and wanted to take a break for a few months. He was obviously upset. I felt terrible, but he was smothering me. I was honest and told him I felt trapped and just needed to breathe for a while.
I expected not to hear much from him while we were apart for the summer, but I was wrong. Instead, I got regular texts and calls as if nothing had ever happened. That’s not space, bro!
I would take forever to respond or just give really short answers, but he kept on keeping on. His clingy behavior from our relationship seemed magnified during our breakup, and I couldn’t take it anymore.
One day when I felt particularly bothered, I just snapped.
I told him that I wasn’t kidding around and his chances of getting back together with that kind of behavior was absolutely zero. I said I wasn’t playing hard to get and that I did not want to speak to him at all.
Brutal honesty seemed to work in my favor because he listened and left me alone. It was hard telling someone that I cared about that I didn’t want to talk point-blank, but I felt even more smothered during the breakup than I did during our relationship.
I’m not a fan of being mean to exes. But being blunt is a totally different story. And it works just fine. I don’t think there’s a need to say “I hate you and never want to speak to you again,” but saying “I seriously don’t want to communicate at all,” gets your point across.
You can be the bad guy without actually being bad.
Have you ever dealt with a clingy ex? How did you get them to leave you alone? Did it work? Tell me in the comments!
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So I broke up with my boyfriend 2 days ago because he was super clingy and i just didnt have those type of feelings for him anymore. He is constantly bugging me, asking why, saying things that make me feel bad about breaking up with him, bugging me in school, he also said i made a ‘retared decision’. And after i blew up on him today he said i was overreacting. He has made me so mad!
Something similar is happening to me right now, only it was my boyfriend breaking up with me. I accepted it, cause there is no use in continuing a relationship if the other person is not fully commited to it.
The next day he texts me as if nothing happened. I told him to please not contact me in a while, cause I needed time to get over him – preferably without being reminded of him constantly.
He left me alone for about a month, and then asked, whether or not we could talk again. I asked him about what. About us. There is no us anymore, I said.
Appearently he didn’t consider that breaking up with me means breaking up with me, e.g. not getting me back the moment it suits him.
I told him off (quite consicely, no need to respect his feelings if he doesn’t respect mine), but he keeps pestering me with messages.
I was being pestered daily with several messages and phone calls, unitl I had to deinstall the programm we were using to communicate from my phone (he lives in another country, so we had to use Viber to make phone calls). I had peace for about 4 days, then the whole shit started on Facebook.
Told him off again; I wasn’t being nice this time either, even threatened to block him.
That worked for around one day, then he totally ignored what I said and started again, begging me to give him a chance, to talk to him, telling me how much he regreted breaking up and how much he loved me.
I blocked him.
Now I get the messages per mail…It has developed to the point that he wants to marry me and move to my country for me. Someone’s spiraling down in his own misery, I’d say.
And nothing I do stops his behaviour. After a final, really long and brutal mail, where I told him how happy I am with breaking up and most definetly don’t want to marry him, I’m down to good old ignoring.
At least the number of mails has dwindeled, but they still come. Right now he is taking time of in another country to build back his selfesteem (which was the reason he broke up with me, btw.), and I’m not sure whether he realized, that this too won’t help with getting me back…
When someone answers you, PLEASE!!! let me know. M situation is worse because we do have a 5 year old daughter, and I’ve been trying to move on for at least 4 years. TRAGEDY, so sad!!!
The best thing to do, is to work out, and get strong. A healthy body, leads to a healthy mind. You are less likely to get trapped into the same old bullshit again! Stay STrong Sisters!
well my bestie is dealing with a similar problem..actually she was in a relationship for more than two years but she realized that their ‘thing’ was going nowhere…so she decided to tell him to break up..initially he accepted it but after a couple of days he strted texting her…calling her…he didn’t seem to get it…he started being very very annoying..actually he started acting like a psycho..he said very bad things to her and he even threatened her…she did everything to convince him that it is over but he refuses to understand it…WE DON’T KNOW WHAT ELSE TO DO…anny suggestions?
okay, i have a very clingy ex he texts me:
-when he wakes up
-during school
-after school
-durning the day
-and befor he goes to bed
and i seriously just broke up with him yesterday, i cant rlly “get away” from him easily… i was with my cousin and he kept texting me so:
-she took my phone
-called him
- and said: hey um…savana is getting rlly pissed off so stop talking to her
i couldnt hear with what he responded to but i think he started crying
#1 bc i wouldnt give him another chance
#2 bc now he knows i dont wanna talk to him
#3 my cousin blew uo on him XD
it was funny at first but now i feel guilt
he always said:
-i was the only thing keeping him alive
-i was his only friend
-i was his “true love”
now 8 months befor that we lost communication
and one morning he calls me saying:
-hey babe i miss you!
and of course i didnt want to be mean so i played along for a few weeks but then i felt guilty, i felt smuthered…
i think i did the right thing
my mother, sister, & friends are all happy tht im not dealing with his bullshit anymore but idk ._. i feel horrible but i also feel like a weight was lifted from my shoulders…
You told him you wanted a ‘break’, which implies that you may get back together. If you didn’t want to talk to him at ALL, you should have just broken up in the first place. Obviously.
my ex broke up with me…. but acts like nothing ever happened!!! i still want to be friends but, seriously dude? i thought you wanted me to be gone from your life! HE STILL WANTS TO GO TO THE MOVIES AND THE MALL!! its like we are still in a relationship.
He probably just wants your frienship…