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I told my boyfriend that I needed some space and wanted to take a break for a few months. He was obviously upset. I felt terrible, but he was smothering me. I was honest and told him I felt trapped and just needed to breathe for a while.
I expected not to hear much from him while we were apart for the summer, but I was wrong. Instead, I got regular texts and calls as if nothing had ever happened. That’s not space, bro!
I would take forever to respond or just give really short answers, but he kept on keeping on. His clingy behavior from our relationship seemed magnified during our breakup, and I couldn’t take it anymore.
One day when I felt particularly bothered, I just snapped.
I told him that I wasn’t kidding around and his chances of getting back together with that kind of behavior was absolutely zero. I said I wasn’t playing hard to get and that I did not want to speak to him at all.
Brutal honesty seemed to work in my favor because he listened and left me alone. It was hard telling someone that I cared about that I didn’t want to talk point-blank, but I felt even more smothered during the breakup than I did during our relationship.
I’m not a fan of being mean to exes. But being blunt is a totally different story. And it works just fine. I don’t think there’s a need to say “I hate you and never want to speak to you again,” but saying “I seriously don’t want to communicate at all,” gets your point across.
You can be the bad guy without actually being bad.
Have you ever dealt with a clingy ex? How did you get them to leave you alone? Did it work? Tell me in the comments!
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well my bestie is dealing with a similar problem..actually she was in a relationship for more than two years but she realized that their ‘thing’ was going nowhere…so she decided to tell him to break up..initially he accepted it but after a couple of days he strted texting her…calling her…he didn’t seem to get it…he started being very very annoying..actually he started acting like a psycho..he said very bad things to her and he even threatened her…she did everything to convince him that it is over but he refuses to understand it…WE DON’T KNOW WHAT ELSE TO DO…anny suggestions?
okay, i have a very clingy ex he texts me:
-when he wakes up
-during school
-after school
-durning the day
-and befor he goes to bed
and i seriously just broke up with him yesterday, i cant rlly “get away” from him easily… i was with my cousin and he kept texting me so:
-she took my phone
-called him
- and said: hey um…savana is getting rlly pissed off so stop talking to her
i couldnt hear with what he responded to but i think he started crying
#1 bc i wouldnt give him another chance
#2 bc now he knows i dont wanna talk to him
#3 my cousin blew uo on him XD
it was funny at first but now i feel guilt
he always said:
-i was the only thing keeping him alive
-i was his only friend
-i was his “true love”
now 8 months befor that we lost communication
and one morning he calls me saying:
-hey babe i miss you!
and of course i didnt want to be mean so i played along for a few weeks but then i felt guilty, i felt smuthered…
i think i did the right thing
my mother, sister, & friends are all happy tht im not dealing with his bullshit anymore but idk ._. i feel horrible but i also feel like a weight was lifted from my shoulders…
You told him you wanted a ‘break’, which implies that you may get back together. If you didn’t want to talk to him at ALL, you should have just broken up in the first place. Obviously.
my ex broke up with me…. but acts like nothing ever happened!!! i still want to be friends but, seriously dude? i thought you wanted me to be gone from your life! HE STILL WANTS TO GO TO THE MOVIES AND THE MALL!! its like we are still in a relationship.
He probably just wants your frienship…