This idea that being feminine makes you lesser really interested me. Let’s see what y’all had to say!
I’ve been thinking a lot recently about femininity. How girls who like pink and wearing dresses and baking are considered “weak” or “stupid”. How feminine feminists are criticized because apparently genuinely enjoying sparkly things is degrading. How boys who like clothes are bullied because being like a girl is somehow an insult.
I think it really boils down to the sexist idea that anything relating to women is bad or weak or stupid. Out culture has just built all of these ideas of what femininity means: dresses, pink, sparkles, fashion, makeup, baking, sewing. But those things aren’t “stupid” things.
It bothers me because on the flip-side, anyone who doesn’t like dresses, pink, who doesn’t wear heels, etc is considered “butch,” “tomboyish,” ungirly, unfeminine.
As long as you’re female, you’re feminine. People need to stop stressing heels and skirts and looking like a Barbie doll as the ONLY ticket to being considered “feminine.”
I don’t think it’s the dresses or the baking that make people think girls are stupid, I think it’s that so many girls who try to be this textbook description of “feminine” act ditsy and make themselves look highly unintelligent. Obviously not all of them, but a lot of girls who dress in sparkles and pink and wear dresses act stupid, and WANT to be thought of as weak.
As someone who grew up around mostly boys, I found myself trying to portray a more girly image because I didn’t want other kids to call me a boy.
Today, I think I’m pretty feminine. I love sparkly things, pink and makeup. But I’m also a feminist who’s independent, strong and intelligent. Just because I love fashion and pretty things doesn’t mean I’m stupid or weak.
Femininity does apply to women because we are females, but men can be feminine as well. Just as women can be masculine. If you like baking and pink and puppies, you can still be smart and strong. It doesn’t make you any less of a person to like what you like. Your personal preferences quite frankly are nobody’s business.
What do you think about femininity? Does being feminine make you stupid? Tell me in the comments!
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