7 Ways To Deal With Your Boyfriend’s Family

When I was a kid, I was constantly hearing from my parents and every other adult about how annoying in-laws were. I always thought, what could be so bad about your significant other’s family? I wondered, could they really be that annoying? I was very skeptical of this, for some reason. I couldn’t wait to meet a guy and get a second family of my own. It sounded great!

These naive feelings lasted until I started dating a guy who had one of the most annoying families ever. Suddenly, I understood why everyone complained about their in-laws. It’s one thing to be stuck with your own sometimes annoying family, but it’s an entirely different thing to be stuck with a family that you don’t even have to be stuck to. At least your family is flesh and blood! 

Okay, so not every other family is annoying. I’m sure there are plenty of in-laws or soon-to-be in-laws out there who are perfectly lovely. But if you’re dating someone who happens to have the kind of family members that make you bite your tongue, there is help. Here are some tips on how to deal with your boyfriend’s family, from the pain in the butt little brother to the over-protective mom:

In the end, keep this in mind: you really can’t change your boyfriend’s family. They are who they are! The best thing you can do is learn how to deal with them and accept that they might sometimes annoy you. Remember: you’re dating your boyfriend, not his family. If he’s worth it, then that’s all that matters.

Have you ever had to deal with a boyfriend’s annoying family? How did you do it? What kind of family members did I miss? Tell me in the comments.

 

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  • Tasha Frazier

    Hello my name is Tasha, I’ve been living with my boyfriend for 8 months now and I feel like I’m being taken for granted by his family. I’ve know them two years previous to me and my boyfriends relationship. Then everyone seem to give me more respect, now that I’m with my boyfriend they changed. His mother dosnt involve me in activity with her daughter, not only do I feel left out…but I feel as if they say things about me that they don’t want me to hear. Their condescending twords me like I don’t know how to do the simplest stuff or how to do it!! I’m not stupid!! I’m 25 years old and I’ve learned and experienced alot! I’m not a child either…so why do they treat me like it! Sister is 9 years younger than me and she’s spoiled as fuck! She thinks she is entitled to do anything she wants, and she dose, boy howdy! She talks down to me as well and rude about it. She’s got a attitude. There’s something shady about them. They don’t understand really who I am as a person, I don’t really like confrontation and i bend over backwards to be nice to them and they don’t seem to care or appreciate what I do enough for them. I feel bad that I have to stew over it to my boyfriend because he’s the only one that understands them. I deal with enough problems due to the fact that I have social anxiety and depression everyday so everything I perceive is ten fold! Help me please I need some advice!!!

  • Cindy

    We are currently living with his family and what started to be alright turned into a nightmare. She started to forget me when making dinner and when I came home late from work nothing was there. She also constantljjy tries to hang out with us, even goes on drives with my boyfriend and tells him to go for coffees when he is off. the last day she took in all clothes bar mine which she left out in the rain.
    It is so hard living with the in laws cause you cant avoid them! I am hut trying to not be in the house as much as I can 🙁 – the time will pass I guess

  • S. Mcmoneagle

    My boyfriend’s cousin doesn’t like me it all started when she pranked called me and asked me if I was jealous then I told my close friend about it and my close friend is very over protective over me and then she said text me a couple of days later saying I was obsessed and that I was vain and I am not and it really hurt me when she said that because I didn’t do anything to her and she also told me to watch my back and she threaten my close friend saying ever time she see her she is going to stab her wheels and beat her up and she is controlling and she is a coward and whatever me and my boyfriend plan is none of her business what we plan in the future any advice people????

  • Kendra Jennings

    My boyfriends family is just plain out obnoxious. We have a child together so it makes things worse. I buy food for the house it gets gone. I buy things for myself they eat it all. They get on my nerves so bad that I nearly broke up with him because of them.

  • Ana Sols

    My boyfriend’s mum is crazy and I am so sad we have the same family.

  • Ellie

    My bf’s mother act soo nice in front of everyone and so i thought im lucky cos im gonna be close to my future mother in law but i was wrong. When i started dating my bf his mother goes with us everytime we go somewhere like eating out, watching a movie, shopping and so on. I didnt complain bout it since her husband is away throughout the week for his job. For 2 yrs on every weekend that was when i got to know her and omg she is mean, manipulative, drama queen, overprotective etc..
    She hates me cos she thinks that im taking her son away from him and that his attention towards her is now on me according to my bf which is ridiculous. She used to make up alot of stuff and be dramatic and then my bf would believe everything shed say.

    • Cindy

      I know exactly what you mean!
      My boyfriends mum doesnt work so he constantly says how lonely she is and that we should bring her for coffees, dinner, etc so she gets out.
      She is always there but when I suggested for her to go volunteer or do something where she would meet people she just says she is too busy for that.

  • Shanelle

    To me. Im dating my guy for four years. His family hates my living guts. So does his sister and they totally love my guys brothers girl because shes qualified and i aint. Well basically i have learnt how to live with their torment and false accusations. Its part of life and if your guy really means everything to you then his definitely worth the fight.his family call me the ” bitch” they told him to leave me because i am bad news for him. That i go around with other men etc but ive learnt if you feed their trash. It will only get the best of you and will fill your heart with hate. Yes! You must be thinking. Why me? The woman who loves your son and will take care of him? Dont worry. Thought the same but i guess some people will never know the true valie of you. And the person YOU truly are without them JUDGING you oj your past mistakes and the background you grew up from. So my honest advice to you girls out there with guy family drama.hang in there because i am. Its a tough challenge but its true love worth fighting for?.dont change every bit of you becauae they are nasty. Just be yourself. Be true to yourself and they will come around. If not then they are not worth your stress and tears coz i mean. C’mon. Who would ever wanna ruin your beautiful skin and amazing personally for sour plums who only want to poke finger and be nosey?its gonna be tough but honestly from my side. They don’t know we are atill dating it hurts but one mistake is to never force or blame your guy if his family doesnt like you. If he loves you truly. Thats all that matters.

  • merie

    Omg my boyfriends family is by far the most worst ever his mom she hates me so much for no reason im always nice to her but then she always has a reason to fight with me , call me out of my name , poisons my bf mind well triess! she talks to his ex’s invites her over ! she will do anything in her power to make him break up with me then his sister gets involved she always does she was once my bestfriend not anymore , they called the cops on me numerous of times she threatens me she just wont leave me alone all they want to do is fight with me , she also made fake profiles about me showing my boyfriend when it was really her they say im taking him away from the family which i dont he always defends me but his mom goes crazy when he does , they dont invite me anywhere at all as to my boyfriend he goes everywhere with my family what should i do??

  • Christina Geiger

    I need help he doesn’t take a step without consulting his parents about it first. I want him to be mine but they make me seem like a demon. They even did a background check on me. When nothing came up wrong they looked into warrants and even called my ex husband. It’s become such an issue that I am moving out.

  • Ashley

    My boyfriend’s dad follows us around obsessively and rifles through our stuff. He stands over me when I’m cooking and physically sticks his fingers in whatever I make *ew*. He is totally inappropriate and awkward. No concept of personal space or creative thought. He criticizes and mocks everything he doesn’t understand. It’s a nightmare. I wish he respected us enough to honor our boundaries. There’s no reason for all this and frankly, it’s creepy. Then he lies and makes obscene (insultingly dumb) excuses to get into our space and snoop. I hate it. That was a harsh vent but srsly. c’mon bro. I wish I didn’t have to visit.

  • Leah

    I have been with my boyfriend for a little over a year now, he is my absolute everything and I still don’t think his family is really fond of me. I’m only nothing but sweet to them, I mean I would say I can be awkward sometimes and not as talkative but I don’t mean anything by it that’s just the kind of person I am. But they barely even acknowledge my existence when I’m there or say hi to me when I come to their house. He has two sisters that don’t care to talk to me. I try to have conversations with them to bond more but they kinda just shut me down by not looking at me or not responding like they don’t wanna hear me talk, and it’s the same with his mom and dad. It just makes me feel really uncomfortable when I’m there and gives me the feeling like they just want me gone. I asked my boyfriend if he thinks they like me and he says they do but I don’t see why he says that by the way they act towards me when I’m with them. It’s just really important in a relationship that the family likes you and if they don’t then it makes me not know what to do.

    • breanna

      I am in the same situation. This happened to me last weekend. I went to my boyfriends parents house with him. I brought a platter of homemade cinnamon rolls that I made from scratch and they all liked them. My boyfriend has quite a large family, so he gets distracted easily and likes to wander off and talk to everyone. I usually get stuck alone and I try to talk to his sisters and they totally blow me off and act like they don’t want to talk to me and exclude me from conversations. I was literally just sitting by myself on my phone by the end of the night and had to beg my boyfriend to take us home. It is really upsetting and rude of his family to treat me that way.

  • Audris

    My boyfriends’ sister thinks she’s the girlfriend, when he came home from work one day she took his shoes and socks off and rubbed his feet (in front of my face) can you say weird and that’s just one occasion