I’ve got something to ask about weight and stuff like that. I’m so thin and when I say thin, I mean super thin. I’m tall and I am skinny, so I’m like a walking skeleton. Do guys think that’s gross? Are guys turned off by really skinny girls? I eat a lot, so what’s wrong with me?! I know tons of girls want a skinny body, but this is just too much. Everybody says that if I gain a little more weight, I’ll look just right and that makes me feel so self-conscious. Help!
Ain’t the grass always greener on the other side? I know plenty of ladies – as do you – who would kill for your body, and plenty of ladies like you who would do the same for a fuller figure. The same goes for breast size — even though others might be envious of their guy-attracting curves, lots of women can’t stand their voluptuous cup sizes.
I get that what people say about your body makes you feel uncomfortable. You shouldn’t listen to those people! If you really think gaining a few pounds will significantly boost your self-confidence, then make sure you do so responsibly. Nutrition and exercise are the only truly healthy methods of maintaining proper weight. If you’re not sure where to start, a nutritionist should be able to help you.
Honestly though, the best thing you can do here is just to learn to accept your body as it is. I know, I know – easier said than done, right? But I’ll let you in on a little secret: guys love confidence. If you love what you look like and you own your body, no matter what size it is, dudes will see that and it will effect how they see you. I’m not saying that accepting yourself will make every guy fall head over heels, which brings me to my point…
As for what guys think about skinny girls: The truth is that no matter what your weight is, some dudes will be attracted to you, and some will not. It all comes down to personal preference, and trust me, no two guys have the same taste! (Unless, of course, you’re Drake and Chris Brown. …Wait a minute – who wouldn’t fight for Rihanna?) You simply need to find those guys who will be into you for you – and trust me, there are plenty attracted to your body type! Just be sure you’re managing your weight for you, not for anyone else.
Ethan Fixell is a writer and comedian from New York City best known as one half of comic “dating coach” duo Dave and Ethan. He is also the creator and editor of ActualConversation.com. For more on Ethan, visit EthanFixell.com…or call his mom, Robin.