So Selena and Justin are done, but reportedly, Justin wants his friend Alfredo Flores to help get back his former girlfriend. Whether this will actually lead to a Jelena reunion, only time will tell, but it’s no secret that friends get strategically used in the dating world (even in non-famous circles).
You’ve probably heard the expression “wingman,” in regard to a person you bring along to help you land a date. A friend’s help can be really useful in trying to get a date, and it’s always nice to have a buddy there to show their support.
So how can you be the BWW (Best Wing Woman) ever if your BFF asks for your help? Well you can start by following these ten steps!
Remember: You Can't Do EverythingIf Justin really wants Selena back, Alfredo could help him out, but if Justin only goes through his friend, that probably won't cut it. Being a wing woman can really help out a friend, but you never should be expected to do everything. Your first step is just make sure your friend knows that as a wing woman, you want to support her, not coordinate everything in her dating life. Source: Aaron Gilbert/WENN.com
Boost Her Confidence BeforeOne of your most important jobs is to just remind your friend that she's totally awesome before you even head out to complete your wing woman duties. That could mean consulting on an outfit that makes her feel fabulous or sharing everything you like about her. Help her feel super confident! Source: Shutterstock.com
Know Her TypeRemember that you are trying to help out your friend, not you. She may prefer guys with totally different interests or personality traits, so those are the things you should be looking for as a wing woman. If a guy seems perfect to you, but she wouldn't be into him at all, it won't be super helpful. Source: Shutterstock.com
Go Where She WantsYour friend should feel comfortable and in her element when she wants to flirt. Let her decide for herself where that could be, and even if you wouldn't necessarily choose those same plans, try to be a good sport about it. If you're complaining about being dragged to the dance, she'll feel stressed out, and as a wing woman, you don't want to be the cause of stress. Source: Shutterstock.com
Be Her Biggest Cheerleader: Part 1You should definitely be your friend's biggest fan when talking her up, but also be a little selective. Focus on her awesome traits, but avoid any inside jokes or stories that could be embarrassing (no matter how funny she seems to think they are when it's just the two of you). Keep the conversation on her great qualities or cool achievements that will get this guy wanting to talk more about it with her instead of you! Source: Shutterstock.com
Be Her Biggest Cheerleader: Part 2It's one thing to have your friend leave the house feeling good, but it can be quite another when you get to the party or dance. If you're talking her up to guys, but she feels down, then it probs won't be any fun for her anyway. Make sure you give her a little pep talk mid-way through to make sure she's staying confident once you've arrived. Source: Shutterstock.com
Remember Why You're ThereIf you've agreed to help her out, flirting with the guys she is interested in isn't great wing woman etiquette. Look, if you happen to meet the perfect guy for you during your wing woman adventure and things develop, okay - but overall, just try not to steal her spotlight with the guys if you have committed to being her wing woman this time around. It shows your friend you're most invested in helping her out. Source: Shutterstock.com
Don't Volunteer Your FriendNot only should you not be in charge of everything, but it's inappropriate for you to speak on behalf of your friend. Yes, talk about your friend and why she is awesome, but don't go so far as to volunteer her for dates or say that she agrees to something. It's one thing for you to talk about her awesome qualities, but ultimately it's her life, and she gets to decide who she sees or what she does. Source: Shutterstock.com
Be Honest (But Nice)If your friend asks about what you think of a guy, be honest, but gentle. Yes, we said know her type, but that doesn't mean let your friend get hung up on someone giving weird vibes or seeming totally uninterested. A good wing woman will tell the truth, but in a way that is totally respectful to your friend. Source: Shutterstock.com
Be There For Her AfterAn outing as a wing woman could end well with your friend meeting a nice guy, or she could feel kind of down about how it went. Either way, be there for her afterward. If she doesn't feel amazing about how it went, be ready for a quality girl sesh to remind her she's awesome. If it goes well? Help her celebrate! Source: Shutterstock.com
Do you consider one of your friends your go-to wing woman? Have you ever been someone else’s wing woman? How did it go? Tell us in the comments!