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Sex doesn’t always come so easily. Sometimes, especially when we’re in a long relationship, we have trouble getting turned on as much as we used to. Is this happening to you… and stressing you out? Find out why you’re not getting as turned on around your boyfriend.
ChickRx expert S. Michael Plaut, Ph.D., Psychologist & Certified Sex Therapist, says:
When we just start dating someone, the novelty of a new relationship may lead us to be sexually excited very easily. This may be enhanced if we don’t have access to our lover all the time and also by the fact that in a new relationship, we are trying to be at our best. This explains why you might be more turned on in the beginning of a relationship.
But after a while, we may have a tendency to take each other and the relationship for granted. When we get very comfortable with someone, we may stop dressing up for each other or stop focusing on our hygiene as much. Usually, we also start expecting to have sexual intercourse without the teasing, play and romance that may have preceded our initial sexual encounters.
Also, as two people get to know each other in a relationship, they realize that everyone has their flaws and that their boyfriend/girlfriend is not perfect. It may be difficult to feel as turned on with a person who does not carry their weight in the relationship or otherwise behaves in a way that is disturbing in some way.
Relationships that maintain their passion take work, commitment, constant attention, compromise and caring, no matter how long they last. If anything in your relationship seems to be missing, talk about and find a way to resolve it together.
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