So, BuzzfeedShift discovered a free iPhone and Android app floating around out there that actually encourages you to beat your boyfriend. Is this real life? Because I am literally shocked that this exists right now.
The app is called The Boyfriend Trainer, and unfortunately, it is real life. Here’s the description straight from the iTunes app store: “Crack that whip and teach your guy a thing or two about being the Perfect Boyfriend! When scolding doesn’t work, just zap him, whack him and train him to be your ideal man!”
The game not only encourages you to abuse your “boyfriend” whenever he’s done something wrong or not up to your “perfect boyfriend” standards… you actually have to abuse him in order to play the game at all. You advance through the levels by hitting, punching or strangling your pretend BF every time he does something you don’t approve of.
From what BuzzfeedShift shows, it looks like each measure of physical abuse also goes hand in hand with a “lesson” like this one: “Guys are messy and girls are the ones who have to clean up after them. So when he makes a mess, don’t stress. Just give him a whack.”
Whoa. I’m shocked that this exists, but I’m even more shocked that it hasn’t gotten more negative attention until now (unless it has and I missed it). I don’t know for sure when the app was created, but according to the iTunes store, it was last updated in October 2012, so it’s been around for at least a few months… and it’s only getting called out now?! Can you guys imagine what would happen if the roles were reversed, and this was an app about a guy beating his girlfriend? It would be insane. It would never be allowed and everyone would be outraged.
Well, a girl beating her boyfriend is just as bad as a guy beating his girlfriend – any kind of domestic abuse should never be tolerated. I know some people will say this is “just a game”, but the thing is, it’s a terrible game and the message sucks. Teaching girls to hit their BF when he does something wrong? That is in no way okay.
Another message being sent here is that girls should be training their boyfriend. Um, no. That’s not how a relationship works. Your boyfriend is a human being, not your brand new puppy that needs to be babysat. You can’t train him – you can tell him what you don’t like, and you can ask him to change some of the things he does, but you can’t try to control his behavior the way this game is suggesting. This line is not okay: “No boyfriend is perfect. It’s time you trained him to become one.” No. Just no.
Seriously, this might be one of the worst apps in the history of apps. Domestic abuse isn’t a joke and it’s not something to make a game about. Anything that encourages abusing someone in order to get your way is not cool. Who else agrees that this should be shut down ASAP?
What do you think of this app? Would you ever download it? What do you have to say about it? Tell us in the comments.