The “Boyfriend Trainer” App Encourages You To Beat Your BF… Huh?

the boyfriend trainerSo, BuzzfeedShift discovered a free iPhone and Android app floating around out there that actually encourages you to beat your boyfriend. Is this real life? Because I am literally shocked that this exists right now.

The app is called The Boyfriend Trainer, and unfortunately, it is real life. Here’s the description straight from the iTunes app store: “Crack that whip and teach your guy a thing or two about being the Perfect Boyfriend! When scolding doesn’t work, just zap him, whack him and train him to be your ideal man!”

The game not only encourages you to abuse your “boyfriend” whenever he’s done something wrong or not up to your “perfect boyfriend” standards… you actually have to abuse him in order to play the game at all. You advance through the levels by hitting, punching or strangling your pretend BF every time he does something you don’t approve of.

From what BuzzfeedShift shows, it looks like each measure of physical abuse also goes hand in hand with a “lesson” like this one: “Guys are messy and girls are the ones who have to clean up after them. So when he makes a mess, don’t stress. Just give him a whack.”

Whoa. I’m shocked that this exists, but I’m even more shocked that it hasn’t gotten more negative attention until now (unless it has and I missed it). I don’t know for sure when the app was created, but according to the iTunes store, it was last updated in October 2012, so it’s been around for at least a few months… and it’s only getting called out now?! Can you guys imagine what would happen if the roles were reversed, and this was an app about a guy beating his girlfriend? It would be insane. It would never be allowed and everyone would be outraged.

Well, a girl beating her boyfriend is just as bad as a guy beating his girlfriend – any kind of domestic abuse should never be tolerated. I know some people will say this is “just a game”, but the thing is, it’s a terrible game and the message sucks. Teaching girls to hit their BF when he does something wrong? That is in no way okay.

Another message being sent here is that girls should be training their boyfriend. Um, no. That’s not how a relationship works. Your boyfriend is a human being, not your brand new puppy that needs to be babysat. You can’t train him – you can tell him what you don’t like, and you can ask him to change some of the things he does, but you can’t try to control his behavior the way this game is suggesting. This line is not okay: “No boyfriend is perfect. It’s time you trained him to become one.” No. Just no. 

Seriously, this might be one of the worst apps in the history of apps. Domestic abuse isn’t a joke and it’s not something to make a game about. Anything that encourages abusing someone in order to get your way is not cool. Who else agrees that this should be shut down ASAP?

What do you think of this app? Would you ever download it? What do you have to say about it? Tell us in the comments.


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  • Wanda May

    Whoever wrote this article should be zapped and whipped.

  • Abi

    I half agree with the author, but also with some of the other commenters. I know this game was never meant to encourage girls to beat their boyfriends, and I don’t think it will do that, but it is sending out a weird message. I’ve played this game, and honestly? I don’t think it’s too bad. Still, I don’t completely agree that the game should still be allowed. It does, like I said, send out an odd message.

  • jackie


  • CP

    I have two, short things to say
    This game has been around since 2011, maybe earlier. I know that because I played it then and it was probably around longer

    And like others have said it’s just a game, the only people who’d get the message “go ahead and beat your boyfriend” are the kind of people that shouldn’t be playing it in the first place. The only way one get’s the message “It’s okay to abuse the person you’re dating” are immature twats who can’t tell the difference between reality and a game (that and kids, but this game most likely wasn’t intended for them or anyone that’s stuck in that mindset, they can just go play a number game or something, I don’t know). There’s honestly no reason to freak out or get offended by a game that means no harm. And truth be told, I wouldn’t be very offended if it was about a girl either… I still would’ve played it since it’s a nice break from games that have you kissing when no one’s looking

    This message.. is much larger than I suspected it would be. xD

  • Kayla

    An app like this is not fine at all. The author is right. This app is violent.

  • diva

    Just a joke…

  • Alyssa

    This site takes things to heart waay too often. Its a game, a joke. get over it, its healthy to poke fun and things. Girls are not goinb go to start treating their boyfriends like this just because a game TOLD Stop over reacting to every litfle thing and take that stick out of your ass and gain a sense of humor.

    • Lucy Carson

      Remember to think about what would happen if the roles were reversed. @Morgan and Alyssa. It is just a game but imagine if it was a game about anorexia or something.

  • Morgan

    Its nothing new, it has been around for years on the internet. Its fine! There is nothing wrong with it soooo don’t make such a big deal out of nothing. I love this site but I hate how offended some of you writers get by every single thing! TAKE A JOKE! Goodbye and this better be posted.