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The news is out there now that “Jelena” is no more, and this weekend our girl took to the stage for a UNICEF benefit concert. Apparently, she picked a couple intriguing songs to sing for the crowd – “Cry Me A River” and “I Knew You Were Trouble.” Hmmm.
While it’s not like she announced that she was directing these songs at Justin by name, it did feel a little bit like a vengeful dig in the wake of their break-up. When we’re upset, many of us want revenge to make our ex really feel like they’re missing out now. It’s a natural feeling. The only issue is that revenge can cause a whole lot of problems for you.
When you hear the word “revenge,” it can make you immediately think of mean things, but it doesn’t have to be like that. Honestly, making your ex realize how amazing you still are without him around is really the best type of revenge, and you can definitely do it without it being a total mean-fest. Here’s a few dos and don’ts on getting this kind of revenge:
DON'T Try To One-Up Him
Bieber sang "Cry Me A River" at a post-break concert, and now Selena is too? It could be coincidence, but it doesn't look great. Revenge on TV or in movies is sometimes showed as a competition about who can best the other person. If you do that though, you'll get stuck in this cycle forever and he'll probably think you can't get over him. If you don't move on, you really can't get any revenge. Source: Alberto Reyes/WENN.comDO Watch Your Words
It can be tempting to use your words to exact revenge, but especially when everything can live online forever, those words can really come back and haunt you. Think about how public Taylor is with her break-up songs. Ultimately it's her life and choice, but it does leave some people feeling not so great about the way she goes about displaying some of those guys in the songs. Just be careful with what you say about the whole situation. Source: FayesVision/WENN.comDON'T Be A Mean Girl
I know, you are probably thinking that’s basically the point of revenge. But seriously, no. The world has too many sad and bad things going on for us to keep tearing people down, even if they've hurt us in the past. We've covered this by minding what you say in public, but also think about how you act. In addition to not speaking any kinds of rumors or rude remarks, pranks or things like that are no good. He won't feel like he's missing out on hanging out with a mean girl. Source: Shutterstock.comDO Take Your Time
When you're hurt, you can feel like you want to get revenge ASAP. You've heard the expression "Revenge is a dish best served cold," right? Take your time. If you try to go out there and prove how happy you are (when you're feeling anything but happy), it'll be obvious that you're trying to get a rise out of him and that won't look good. Don't feel like you need to prove anything to anybody right away, so just take some time to regroup and feel good about you. Source: Shutterstock.comDON'T Obsess About Getting Back At Him
I know, it sounds like if you want revenge you should focus on them all the time, but seriously don’t. You'll drive yourself crazy, and time does tend to help you heal. If people still see you totally dwelling on a guy you want revenge on, it's not going to be a good look. You certainly won't get any sort of positive revenge if people don't want to hang out because you continually keep scheming. Source: Shutterstock.comDO Focus On You
Break-ups happen and its super easy to blame the other person which is what motivates our revenge. However, focusing just on them doesn’t give you the time to think back on what went wrong and maybe things you’ll want to do differently next time around. It doesn't mean blame yourself for what happened, but instead of focusing all your energy on affecting your ex, instead focus on changes you can make that'll make you way happier moving forward (definitely good revenge). Source: Shutterstock.comDON'T Bring In Other People
No matter what happened, this is something between you and your ex - and as we just said, you really only can change how you handle the situation. Using someone else to make your ex jealous or spreading rumors about his new girlfriend may seem like ways to get revenge, but really, that's just mean. All there will be are more hurt feelings and people may not stay on your side no matter the original situation. Source: Shutterstock.comDO Things That Make You Smile!
Find the things that you really enjoy doing and just be happy. It may sound strange that to get revenge you shouldn't even think about the person, but it's really the best way. Being happy without someone is the ultimate revenge, but you won't be happy unless you get out and do all the things you love. Source: Shutterstock.comAnd Finally.... DO Show Off The Happy You!
Okay, so I don't mean get a whole paparazzi crew to follow you around or anything, but I do mean that you shouldn't be shy about showing off how happy you are without him anymore. Got into a great college or had a totally amazing night out for your birthday? You can let people know! Stop fixating on getting revenge and start enjoying your life. When he sees that and feels that twinge of regret, it'll be the real revenge. Source: Shutterstock.comHave you ever tried to take revenge on an ex? What happened? Do you agree that being happy is really the best kind of revenge? Tell us in the comments!
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Online I read how to make itching powder.
take a rose and put it in a dry area so it will dry out faster.
*please put gloves on at this point or you will most likely need the urge to itch*
when the rose dies, there is a green, round, fruit like thing in the rose,
remove the green fruit like thing from the rose.
Take a knife and cut the green particle into two halves. It’s the middle there is a cotton material.
Then with a toothpick, remove the cotton particle from both halves, put it into a small cup.
Put the cup filled with the cotton stuff NEXT to boiling water. This will cause it to expand, but do NOT let it touch the water.
Do not put it in the microwave or it won’t work.
After it becomes fluffy (10-15 minutes next to the boiling water) place the cup with cotton stuff under the sun.
After about an hour under the sun, the cotton should become a powder material. Then you can use it.
For an ex put the powder on something they use everyday like a cell phone, notebook, shoes, etc.
With a girl enemy, put it on a handle of a mirror, their locker handle, pencil, notebook, make up bag, make up, cell phone. Stuff like that.
I hope this works!
Revenge only works if you dont want to be friends with the person
I did spread rumors which I know nows bad but I got over him and I’m happy and I can tell he regrets not getting to know me but I regret not getting to know him either
Well I had a boyfriend who liked listening to what most guys despise and that is one direction, Taylor swift .. Etc. So one day he ended up ignoring me and I found out he was also dating another girl which at the time I was pretty heart broken! Like I was head over heels for this guy but things quickly turned. I then did something really horrible and naturally as a human I wanted him to hurt as much as I did. So I made a fake fb account as a guy and began saying I loved him on Facebook and telling all his friends that they were secretly dating and to stay away. So people then got the hint that he was gay and the worst part for the poor guy is that he went to an all boys school! This actually resulted him I’m being bullied and I regret it very much afterwards… I suppose in the heat of the moment peoe don’t realize the damage they cause. I guess after I figured we were equally heart broken I was able to move on quite fast. I definitely wouldn’t do anything like that now. Also my best friend is gay and I absolutely love gay people but I guess him being accused of it was a bad look for someone who went to school with only boys! I do not encourage what I did!
Slept with his roommate on purpose. He found us. It was perfect.
When I saw this article, I thought it’d be a cute/funny article about revenge (pranks, jokes, etc.) but as thoughtful as it may be, it’s not actually cute or funny. It’s not even about revenge. It’s just… “Learn to love yourself and move on.” Standard generic advice after a breakup. Boring.