A Girl Spread An Abortion Rumor About Me During Rush

Ugh rumors are terrible! Source: Shutterstock

Ugh rumors are terrible! Source: Shutterstock

Rumors are the worst. I mean, regardless of what the truth is, people are going to believe what they want. That’s why rumors are so dangerous. Normally, I rarely pay attention to what people who don’t know me have to say. I know the truth about my life and that’s what matters. But I experienced a purely horrible rumor during college lived to tell the tale.

I made the decision not to rush my freshman year of college. I had a chance to really focus on school and adjust to new life before jumping into the Greek lifestyle, which at the University of Alabama is its own world. I went through recruitment and pledged Alpha Omicron Pi, which is exactly where I wanted to be. I couldn’t have been happier, and my sisters are my best friends in the world. I loved every second.

But a year later when I was on my sorority’s exec board, I was told about a nasty rumor that went around about me while I was coming through rush.

Rumor had it that I had an abortion.

Cue jaw dropping to the floor, right? Small pieces of the puzzle started coming together. I found out that the time I spent in the hospital for my pulmonary embolism was the prime opportunity for my archenemy from home to spread this rumor. Instead of sending me a message saying, “Hey I know we have our differences, but I’m glad you didn’t die,” she decided to lie to half of sorority row.

I never had an abortion, nor have I ever been pregnant. Even if I had, it wouldn’t be anyone’s business. Regardless of your stance on the topic, it shouldn’t be joked about. I’ve had other rumors spread about me, but this one took the cake.

Looking back, it made a lot of sense more why a few houses inexplicably dropped me. I wouldn’t have pledged them anyway because they weren’t my choices, but still. This rumor affected a serious part of my life. Again, I would have ended up at AOII no matter what. I know the truth, my friends know the truth, but there are still plenty of people that believe what she said is true even though it isn’t. I actually had one girl tell me she didn’t believe me, and that’s her prerogative.

I ran into the girl on campus a few times after I found out. Word got out that I knew what she did, so she promptly ran away each time. I wouldn’t have done anything, and I have nothing to say to her but she clearly knows what she did was really not okay.

Rumors are never good, but if it happens to you make sure to keep your head up. Don’t overreact to the rumor because then it looks like you’re being defensive. I knew if I made it into an even bigger deal than it already was, I would have made everything worse. By not really giving the rumor attention, I was able to let it fade out. And of course, knowing I had the support of my friends really helped me. I just had to grin and bear it.

Have you ever had a rumor spread about you? How did you handle it? Did you confront the person who started it? Tell me in the comments!

This girl got some serious revenge on her ex!

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  • karen

    Gosh this must have sucked!! You were in the hospital, really, really sick, while this… mean girl spread the rumor. I bet karma will take care of it, but karma cartainly doesn’t take care of the inner anger of having to deal with something like that.

    Rumors are tricky because most the time you just have to be patient and hope for it to go away, but it’s really hard to rise above it. I’m not into revenge, but most the time i’ve been crossed, i’ve serched for some form of retribution.

    I had a bad “friend”/roomate who we had to evict quite harsh (she wasn’t even classy enough to leave on her own) because she was making our flat a less fashion version of a stripp club. She would manipulate everyone, turn even my bff against me and scheme to pay less rent. She finally left the flat and i stopped seeing her, at least daily. It’s been 4 years since that shitty semester and 3 weeks ago a friend of mine told me that someone in Chicago (fun fact: i live in the center of Mexico…) told her that this girl said that i was the slutty, manipulative, cheap, bitchy one and that it was her decision to leave the flat. Go figure. My retribution was that his favorite cousin went on and pursued me until i dated him. He wasn’t a great bf, but at least i get to say “HA HA! Her own cousin couldn’t help but find me awesome!”

    I currently am in a “whatever” state of mind. It still annoys me when i hear something about her, yet i finally found that place where she can’t cross me again.