HELP!! How do I deal with being tall?! I’ve always been the tallest one in my class since the 5th grade and now I’m a junior and still the tallest one. I don’t know how to overcome this problem that I’m going to have to deal with for the rest of my life. I feel like I’m going to end up alone living with my 20 cats
Girl, I feel your pain… sort of. See, I’ve always been the shortest girl in my class. Actually, I’ve always been the shortest girl pretty much anywhere. I used to hate my height and I spent a really long time literally praying that I would grow. But eventually, I got used to it and now I love being short. But this isn’t about me – it’s about you. The point I’m trying to make is that we all have body insecurities. The best thing we can do is learn to love and accept ourselves for who we are and what we look like.
The fact of the matter is, there’s not much you can do about being tall. There’s no operation that will shrink you and there’s no way to go back in time and be reborn as a more petite girl. But that doesn’t mean there is anything wrong with your height! The first thing you need to do is stop referring to your tallness as a “problem.” I know you’re not feeling comfortable in your body right now, but being tall isn’t a problem – it only is if you make it one. And by telling yourself that you have a “problem”, you’re only making it seem more negative.
I can’t tell you exactly how you can learn to love your body or accept your height – sometimes, that kind of thing can only come with time. I know firsthand that being a drastically different height than other people can be really embarrassing, awkward and it can make you feel isolated. But you should never let yourself feel that way. You should be proud of being tall! It’s what makes you stand out, and that’s a good thing.
Own your height. Who cares if you’re the tallest one in your class? As long as you’re confident and you love your body, that’s all that matters. If other people tease you about it, that’s their problem, not yours. The reality is that most people aren’t as obsessed with our own body image as we are. You might constantly notice that you’re the tallest person in the room, but that doesn’t mean that everyone around you is talking about it or even caring.
Another note? I seriously doubt that your height will cause you to end up alone with 20 cats. A lot of the guys in your class might not have fully grown yet – remember, guys grow for longer than girls do. So this might just be an awkward stage for you, but I’m pretty confident in saying that I don’t think it will last. Like I said: own your height. I know that’s hard to accept right now, but learning to feel comfortable in your own skin is the only thing that will make you feel better.
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