In a new interview, Selena Gomez pretty much hopped on the bandwagon of girls that hate girls. And honestly, this is so annoying, because, well, girls–you know, like you—are awesome.
Talking to Nylon magazine, Selena talked about her BFF Taylor Swift and pretty much said she’s the only girl she’s friends with. “We both experienced the same things at the same time. But we’ve never once talked about our industry. She just became the person I’d go to for an issue with my family or boyfriend. It’s so hard to trust girls, so I’m lucky to have her.”
Here’s the thing: When you’re Selena Gomez and you’re in a really competitive industry, it’s sort of easy to understand why she’d keep her circle fairly small. She may not want to lose out on a role, or she may be afraid of frenemies blabbing her secrets (like about her millionth split from Justin Bieber) to the press. But why single out girls as being hard to trust?
The fact is, people in general, not just girls, like to gossip. In fact, studies have shown that guys actually gossip more than girls do.
One of the reasons why “girls who hate girls” seem to be so common is because of the idea that it makes being “one of the guys” seem easier. And dude, there’s nothing wrong with having guy friends. Guy friends are awesome! But there is something wrong with dismissing an entire gender of people just because you may have had a negative experience with some of them at some point.
Think of it this way: If you replaced “girls” with, say, “Asians” or “blacks” or “homosexuals” in the sentences “It’s so hard to trust girls” or “I hate girls,” it would sound really bad, right?
It’s a bummer that this mode of thinking is so universally accepted. Girls are amazing. If you hate girls, and you are a girl, are you sure the problem isn’t just with the girls you happen to know? Or did you ever consider that maybe, just maybe, if you’re convinced that every girl hates you and you hate girls in general, that you’re the problem?
If you have problems trusting people, that’s one thing. But claiming that girls are hard to trust and that you hate girls won’t improve any situations at all, nor will it make any other girls necessarily want to like you–and it just becomes sort of a vicious cycle. (And full disclosure? It will make guys see you as sort of dramatic.) A better rule of thumb? If you want to keep something secret, don’t tell a girl or a guy. Tell your diary, lock it up, and go about your business instead of forming hurtful generalizations and harboring sexist stereotypes that girls are malicious, mean, and gossipy. Because most of the time, even though she and you are rad, Selena Gomez and girls who hate girls really have problems accepting themselves.
Plus, chances are your guy friends will never give you a tampon in an emergency.
Do you think Selena Gomez is right to not trust girls other than Taylor Swift? Do you think girls who hate girls have a good reason to hate girls? Do you hate girls? Do you trust other girls? Tell us in the comments!