I watched The Bachelor last night because there was nothing else on, and reality television is one of my guilty pleasures. Bachelor Sean took one of his ladies on an “adventurous” date. They went for a nice free-fall off a building. It got me thinking about how I NEVER WANT THAT KIND OF FIRST DATE EVER.
I’ve had some pretty terrible first dates. And second dates. And third dates. Wow, I’m really not good at dating. I know bad dates happen to everyone, and you can look back in ten years and laugh. When it comes to first dates, you have to keep in mind that you probably don’t know this person very well.
It’s great to be creative and do something fun, but I think there are some date ideas that should be avoided until you really know a person. Free-falling dates I think should be avoided in general.
Check out these bad first date ideas and don’t do them!
Activities involving a boat of sorts
Editor Julie told us about the time she went on a kayaking date and the kayak floated away, leaving them stranded. For a first date, you do NOT want to be stranded with someone, especially if it's not going well. Don't get into a "Castaway" situation. Only exception: paddle boats.
Actual rock climbing
Just no. Don't go near cliffs and large rocks or surfaces you can plummet off of to an untimely death. If you want to go rock climbing, go to an indoor wall. With mats. And trained professionals.
What if you're not a good dancer? What if he's not a good dancer? A first date is not the time to find out if you have Dirty Dancing style chemistry. Because you won't. And this has the potential to be extremely awkward.
Trying strange food
Being adventurous is fun, like later in a relationship. Trying new burger joint is great. Trying a place that serves food straight from the set of Fear Factor is not.
Activities where you can get lost
I went geocaching with my ex for one of our dates, but we knew each other really well. Imagine exploring the wilderness or something on a first date and getting lost. That's a lot of stress I'm not willing to deal with. Save playing Lewis and Clark for later.
Family gatherings like Grandma's birthday
Do not ambush your date into meeting your family. First dates are a "get to know you" not "get to know you and your family and your third cousin twice removed."
If someone took me skydiving on a first date I would either throw up or punch them in the face. Do not subject someone to that kind of anxiety! What if they're petrified of heights? What if they have a fear of airplanes? You don't know!
I don't know why this would ever occur, but you should not go to a wedding on a first date. That's just creepy. Like I don't really know you but let's watch two people commit to each other for the rest of their lives and see how this goes. No.
Have you had a really bad first date? Did you go on an out-of-the-box date that went well? Tell me about it in the comments!